Most women who become mothers have marks, stretch marks, soft skin and scars, usually the media hides this reality, teaching women that it is something not to show and what to be ashamed of.
But the truth is that these scars are everything, they are marks that remember the beautiful moments and the great beginnings, such as the scar on the belly of a mother who gave birth to her son by C-section or who simply gave birth and her body. was never the same.
- A mother may not feel aesthetically well because of her scar.
- But emotionally this is one of the most wonderful experiences out there.
- Simple.
- Because this scar has made her a mother and being a mother is like taking a heart out of her chest.
- It’s something extraordinary.
We must emphasize that sometimes being a mother can also cause pain that lives in joy. Postpartum depression, a state of sadness, apathy and irritability experienced by more than 80% of women within two weeks of delivery.
A mother is also prey to society, her body and her expectations, as well as a few months of hormonal, physical and emotional uncontrollability that cause darkness in moments of light, the advent of motherhood is complicated and often makes us vulnerable. Because? Among other reasons, the main reason is that the brain overreacts to the stress and hormone that causes it: cortisol.
This substance during pregnancy has protective and vigilance functions, but once the baby is already in your arms, it can make the mother nervous, anxious and reactive.
Your mind requires a balance that you can’t achieve, so this step is often very exhausting, not only because the brain is accelerated and cloudy, but also because there is often a big misunderstanding of yourself and others.
Feeling bad about the loss of the old body, lack of vital control and restructuring of roles, priorities and expectations does not make a woman a bad mother, it is important to reinforce this because usually these feelings are accompanied by a huge sense of guilt.
It is a difficult process that requires a lot of social and emotional support, usually the body itself does the rest, balancing its hormone levels and recovering the woman from her bad condition, if this persists is normal in 10 to 15% of cases. cases, it will be necessary to consult a specialist.
Childbirth is likely to leave a woman with a physical injury, but it also offers her the best gift she can receive: a child. From that moment on, a woman’s brain splits to think in two, feel for two and love unconditionally and infinitely. the other being.
This precise moment will be part of the most beautiful memory, a mark that in the retina will not be an undesirable scar, but the reflection of immense feelings.
That is why we say that not all scars have a bad memory; but quite the opposite, because the scars of being a mother are not painful in themselves by heart, but they create a wonderful identity.
Thus, over the years, a woman comes to establish a great harmony through her scar, a strong bond with her maternal facet that leads her to a strange but sensitive and unique emotion. The scars of mothers will always be memories of confused initial feelings, yes, but also of the best initiation to purer love that exists: mother’s love.
Note to reader: The photographs illustrating this article are by Jade Beall, a photographer and mother who promotes acceptance of the female body exceptionally.