There are square spirits fighting so that nothing changes, so that the whole structure does not lose a little of that old patina of rust, on the contrary, I am not afraid of change: I wait for them with the maturity of those who know that nothing that happens is eternal, and that nothing that goes away is totally lost.
If we take a moment to look at most mental health or self-help manuals, we’ll see that there’s a kind of message that predominates over others: “Change to improve your life,” “Changes are scary, but sometimes necessary. “However, the fact that the idea is sufficiently repeated does not mean that it is applied as it really is necessary, people, believe it or not, are stubborn and very reluctant to change.
- “The species that survives is not the strongest.
- Nor the smartest: it is the one that best responds to change.
- -Charles Darwin-.
Sometimes we prefer to live in family areas, make us happy or not. Because crossing the border of the known is to dely into the swamps of fear. What if I run into something worse? In the end, many say, known and supposed misfortune will always be better than uncertainty itself. Resistance to change, as we see, has deep roots that erect a dense and chaotic forest where sunlight no longer enters.
However, anyone who is able to push the boundaries of fear offers something like a quantum leap, it is an intense and revealing feeling where, suddenly, we become more receptive to everything around us, ideas flow more easily with this change. and a thousand possibilities open up for us, a thousand paths full of light.
There is a curious fact that we are not always aware of, throughout our lives we have been taking on a multitude of small changes that, without realizing it, cause considerable changes, change certain aspects of our personality in response to certain facts or We adapt or even develop new behaviors to strengthen relationships or to avoid aspects that at some point hurt us.
However, when you look back and realize that you’re not the same person you were a few years ago, you give this feeling a name: “Crisis. “This subtle detachment from the? Yesterday causes me fear and anguish, because we don’t know what this one of the future will bring us.
We’re afraid to grow up, to make more years of life. Breaking up a romantic relationship takes our breath away because it’s not just about letting someone we love go, with this person a part of us also dissipates.
A change always implies a detachment from something, there is no doubt about it and it generates fear, but nothing disappears at all because what we do is transform, we have expanded our areas of activity and expanded our internal paths to give way to much more wisdom, because with change we grow, because a crisis is only an opportunity to be more receptive.
Many people are looking to bring about a change in their life, but we are not talking exclusively about the need to end everything and everyone by pressing the red button to restart, we are talking about the ability to generate internal change so that what is around us also changes.
There are those who see their own life as a constantly failed project. Every time you start something, you fail. Whenever you think you’ve found something or someone exciting and special, it dissipates from your hands. Is there really bad luck there? No way. What exists is an internal disconnection, the changes should not be caused by chance, such as the one that rolls the dice or the one that is thrown into a puddle covering the nose.
Because anyone who takes risks or makes decisions without first connecting with their previous feelings, intuition and experience will probably end up assuming that their life is governed by bad luck. our own expectations for our own desires.
On the other hand, we all know that change brings us closer to uncharted territory, which creates fear and uncertainty. However, to ensure the success of this “Oscillation” in our lives, we must make this change according to all the dimensions mentioned above.
“I’m making this change because I know what I need, because I know that to grow up and allow myself to be happier, I have to leave certain things, certain people and certain scenarios. “Still, to achieve this full and true conviction, it is necessary to “wake up”.
Opening our eyes from the inside to discover the opportunities around us forces us, first of all, to calm our minds. Take the power of the ego dragon, the ghost of fear and the “what will they say” drum. . Awakening is first and foremost connecting in peace and balance with our own feelings, listening in turn to what whispers the heart.
Because there, in this space of peace, fear no longer exists
Images courtesy of Ashley Longshore.