In our development we are surrounded by many types of people, just as circumstances and peculiarities influence and condition our emotional development, so there are necessarily painful situations and people for which hurting others is very simple, and moments of great happiness and people who bring with them. joy for others.
Somehow all this? It cannot be avoided and will always exist, because no one is perfect. We all make mistakes and sometimes we hurt others without even realizing it. The problem arises, however, when it becomes a habit or you come to believe that to learn you have to suffer, when the truth is that you do not need to hurt to teach or hurt to learn.
- A few days ago.
- Have we discussed it?This learning is always a gift even if the teacher was in pain.
- This suffering.
- At least.
- Has not been in vain since any harvested fruit that serves us for future experiences will be a positive thing.
- However.
- None of us want to be hurt so that we can learn from suffering and days of sadness.
“There is nothing good or bad; Is it human thought that makes it look like this?-William Shakespeare-
William Shakespeare’s claim may be more coherent in context so that it can be properly understood, but it also seems to have some truth: even in cases where pain is inevitable and when ground is lost, it is true that it can only be done to overcome the evil that is seen there. However, it is also good to remember that what happens to us always goes through the filter of our own mind, that is why we are the ones who have the last word.
In other words, there are only advantages to discerning what inevitable pain is and what is optional suffering. This is not to say that when someone hurts another person without any logic, it is acceptable: their behavior is neither tolerable nor permissible. help us mature when we are forced to live them. In all other cases, the wound will never be a good learning technique.
We don’t want an injury that we probably don’t deserve, mainly because life already makes it difficult: no one deserves the scars of systematic emotional wounds Shouldn’t anyone have someone by their side who hurts someone??: Because some people think that the fastest way to make yourself known is by causing pain.
It is not an easy task, but if we sometimes get carried away by the anger that causes harmful situations or if we share our lives with those who do, it may be time to make a change: almost every teaching we can receive could come from another. way, away from grudges, envy and evil.
“Maybe he loved me, you should know; but he certainly had a special ability to hurt me. ?-Mario Benedetti-
We can’t let them hurt us for no reason, and that’s why we have all the power in our hands, because it doesn’t hurt whoever wants it, but who it can. we are honestly helping to be better than ourselves, simply taking care of our feelings and valued our inner self.
In every corner there are toxic people who hurt us, which makes it difficult to escape the damage they can cause us, but as we have already said, taking the reins of our lives is what will help us avoid being systematically wounded.
When we are already going through situations of great pain, psychological damage or imposition and control of someone, we are subject to a series of sequels that we must learn to face in the best possible way to avoid being pushed. act the same way. .
For example, some children who have felt emotionally abandoned and who have grown up in a highly unstable family environment develop examples of unused learning in their adult life, in this sense it is necessary to bear in mind that hurting with the excuse of being injured leads us to a negative vicious circle for ourselves and others : if we want someone to listen to us and learn something from what we broadcast, it’s not the right way.
“Every time someone hurts the other person, they do it with their own wound. The deepest, the most harmful?. -Miguel Angel Nuez-