Sometimes ignoring is responding intelligently. It is a wisdom that is acquired with time and experience and that is undoubtedly adaptive. Why? Because it is more than known that our relationships do not always bring positive things, although we want it and that is what we want.
Therefore, sometimes ignoring is more a matter of emotional health and protecting our mental balance than a conscious and thoughtful decision about our success and how we see relationships with certain people.
- Normally.
- We cannot easily perceive that we are fueling toxic exchanges for an emotional reward that will not happen; In other words.
- We sacrifice our well-being for meaningless relationships that hurt us.
We must ignore the situations that disturb us and present our absence when our presence is not valued. So for silly words, smart ears, but when?
Words, comments, attitudes, feelings, emotions? There are situations that because of their hostility or toxicity can be extremely harmful, sometimes even emotional balance can be altered and suffering can be inevitable.
However, we must be able to manage distances, give our mind and body the opportunity to unload, we can escape if we work on our inner dialogue.
Therefore, getting what a certain person affects us or does not affect us acts as a balm, this can be expensive at first, but the results are immediately beginning to be noticed in our emotional health.
It is difficult to forgive words that hurt and are said in times of anger, there are also moments of euphoria that cause our language to get out of control and end up having terrible consequences.
The story in which a father asks his son, in the face of his disbelief, to cut a steel tip into a thin, smooth piece of wood is well known because he needs to teach him something. The father waits patiently for the child to complete the task, then asks him to remove each end and then say the moral of the story.
The board will never return to its original state despite the attempt to repair the damage and remove the small daggers in the form of steel spikes, so it is essential to make an effort to prevent others from suffering from our bad attitudes or behaviors.
We must be careful with forgiveness and make it very clear that offering it does not give anyone the right to harm us again. It is important to reinforce this because generally “are we not used?” And we hurt out of sheer carelessness.
We must also know how to forgive ourselves when we cause discomfort, conflict, and pain to those we love, we must recognize our mistakes and accept what we cannot change and what we can, learn from differences, and live without regrets, guilt, and hatred.
When we do not forgive, joy and peace disappear from our lives and we become slaves to resentment and bad feelings, being able to easily become angry and reinforcing rivalries, something we can certainly escape if we dare to ignore and forgive if necessary.