There are stories, relationships and connections that no longer work, they are like a rope too tense, like a kite that wants to escape and you can’t let go, like a train that goes out in time and you can’t stop letting them go is not an act of cowardice or abandonment, because knowing when it’s enough is an act of bravery.
If there is something that we are not prepared for, it is to get away from important people or stop investing time and energy in a project, a job or a dynamic that until recently was important to us. Ready? Because our brain is very resistant to change, because for this wonderful and sophisticated organ, any break with routine or habit is a leap into the void that generates fear.
- This tendency to always keep us in the same spaces.
- In the same trades and in the company of the same people makes it very difficult for us to overcome the limits of our comfort zone.
- That almost obsessive attachment to the known makes us say things like that?or ‘I’ll wait a little longer to see if things change.
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However, if there is one thing we are tired of knowing is that there are some changes that never happen, and that sometimes holding on a little longer means waiting too long. Have we been taught the classic and unjustifiable idea that what doesn’t happen to kill you makes you stronger?and the one who leaves something or someone does it because he gives up and his will doubles.
But in addition to the “problem,” there is a deep and overwhelming misfortune. So physical that it just takes away air and life. Knowing when is enough is enough and set aside these situations is certainly an act of bravery and health.
When you stumble, fall and get injured, don’t hesitate to try to heal right away and understand that it’s best to avoid this part of the fence because it’s dangerous, why we don’t do the same with our relationships and with each other. From these areas where we also experience pain or suffering?This simple question has an answer that contains nuances as complex as it is delicate.
First of all, and as much as they tell us otherwise, in life there are no sidewalks with gaps or paths full of stones, we know that these kinds of metaphors are very repeated, but the problem is that the dangers of real life can never people carry a sign that tells us how they are doing, how they like it and what their intentions are. Secondly, we must remember that we are creatures with a variety of needs: attachment. , affiliation, community, leisure, sexuality, friendship, work. Finally, we have change: people are dynamic by nature, mutants.
Do these variables force us to do the real thing?Try, experiment and even survive. Thus, sometimes we even offer a second and third chance to less capable people, because our brain is prosocial, and will always give more value to the connection than to the distance, what is known than the unknown.
All of this helps us understand why it’s so hard to know when it’s enough, clarify when something has exceeded the limit, when costs far exceed profits, and when does the mind itself act like our true enemy whispering repeatedly?Let him win?. However, it is necessary to put something basic and essential in our brain: whoever leaves out something harmful and that brings unhappiness does not give up, OVERVIE.
Find our sweet spot, it’s kind of like finding our own balance, our psychological and emotional homeostasis. It would be a matter of knowing at all times what is most ideal and appropriate for ourselves. It is worth saying that this skill is not related to intuition, but to objective self-learning and meticulously acquired through the experience, observation and inference of life itself, where it is necessary to learn from its mistakes and successes.
Sweet spot? It is also that state in which everything we obtain, do and invest in time and energy benefits and satisfies us, however, by the time we see the shadow of stress, fear, tears or extreme exhaustion, we will have given in. to the “bitter point”: an unhealthy area from which we must leave as soon as possible.
It is important to say that this simple strategy can be applied in any area of our existence, finding this sweet spot is an act of wisdom and a personal tool that we use to remind us that everything in this life has a limit, that knowing when it is enough is not to give up, but to understand where our limits are. We are talking about this line that separates happiness from unhappiness, bitterness of opportunity.
We will begin to incorporate this sweet spot into our daily lives to improve our quality of life.