As we move through this uncertain, sometimes chaotic but always wonderful ocean, which is our life cycle, we realize that there is a time to ask questions and a time when we find the answers. In the end, it may be true that everything has its time and that everything has its own paradise under which to act.
Buddhism says that sometimes people look for what they are not yet ready to find, however, it is in our genes to be curious, it is in our mind to ask questions, challenge limits and make sense of everything, to every fact that at some point. The point surrounds us and we’re worried.
“When we thought we had all the answers, the questions suddenly changed. -Mario Benedetti-
A teenager’s questions about the mysteries of his life are not the same as those of the ’40s and end, according to Michael F. Steger, psychologist and director of the Quality of Life Research laboratory, at most in his personal cycle. Every step has its own cycle, concerns of its own, there is no doubt about it, but it is these vital doubts that give energy to our internal engines to continue to grow, to keep changing us.
Similarly, another aspect that we need to think about is how to find the answers to all the existential doubts so common in humans, is it that all life has to offer me or is there something else ?, am I ready to do better things or do I have to do it?Fulfilling what I already have Is this the kind of love I deserve?Why haven’t I found my perfect match yet?
Questions like these are undoubtedly the most common and familiar voids that inhabit every mind, in every heart that desires the smell of something truer, something deeper. We invite you to think about it.
Gregorio Maraon said that in this world we will end the disease, but the haste will kill us. We live in an accelerated dimension. So much so that there is no shortage of parents who want their children to skip the steps, acquire reading and writing skills as soon as possible, think, often deceived, that in this way they will improve their academic performance and, consequently, they will have the success assured. A path that can be flat in the imagination, but complicated in reality.
“We are in such a hurry to make, write and stop hearing our voice in the silence of eternity, that we forget the only really important thing: living. -Robert Louis Stevenson-
On the other hand, the so-called “prepared mania” has also settled in our daily lives: we anticipate the future without living in the present, we live a morning that has not yet arrived because the here and now it is terribly demanding. Hurry is a style of existence that gives prestige, status, if you stop it is because you have no ideas, it is neither productive nor valid, when in reality the only thing that brings us this acceleration is a clear discontent in life and more questions than answers.
Living focused on tomorrow forces us to be mere wandering souls who do not have a full and true awareness of the present. In the midst of this detachment from here and now? We will never find answers to our vital needs. The years will go by marked by uncertainty and frustration. Does the mind, and we cannot forget it, need calm to connect with its roots, with the environment, with our emotions?
This is where we will find the best answers, in this lake of serenity that characterizes the relaxed mind, the one that understands that true excellence is sometimes know how to disconnect, if you have not yet achieved this goal write it down as a goal of what will happen.
Viktor Frankl spoke of the need for people to acquire an intentional consciousness, that is, the mere fact of having a purpose and fighting for it, of believing in something in a full and meaningful way, already allows us to be freer, more responsible and linked to the reality around us. Having a purpose in life gives us meaning and, at the same time, gives more than an answer.
“Wise is not the one who gives the best answers, but the one who asks the best questions. -Claude Lévi-Strauss-
However, sociologists show us that people are influenced by the contexts around them. The family, the education received and the psychosocial environment are sometimes the ones who inject us with this intentional consciousness. This is something we need to reflect on, because understanding the window from which we see and understand life will help us get to know each other better and find the best answers to our needs.
Here we list a series of approaches that somehow serve as a guide to make sense of many of the questions we ask ourselves at some point.
This list is but a small example of an indicative nature, we are the ones who need to find that transcendent and special meaning that is part of us, which guides us to give us the best answers to move all our psychological and motivational resources towards these objectives.
What are you?
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