There is always a moment in life when we finally take the step, free ourselves from certain situations, things and even people who, far from offering us well-being, harm us, this act of personal bravery is seen by many as a reflection of selfishness, when in fact it is a ray of self-esteem.
In addition, it should be noted that this psychological structure is never fully understood, since traditionally the idea of self-esteem is usually linked to a certain narcissistic factor and individualistic selfishness that seeks only personal benefit, none of this is true.
- There is only one love that must last forever: self-love.
- Because dignity comes at a very high price and we must not accept ‘discounts’.
There is a widespread view among psychologists and emotional experts that people, in general, “are scholars on rational but illiterate issues of emotions. “Removing what we feel or want is unhealthy. Nor is it healthy to be unable to respect or understand the needs of others.
No one is selfish to say ‘no’, no one needs to be labeled for daring to intervene and say ‘enough’. We invite you to think about it with us.
Lack of self-esteem fuels our fears and makes us vulnerable. To better understand this idea, simply enter the ever-fascinating world of neuroscience. According to research conducted by dartmouth University in New Hampshire, USA. The area of the brain associated with self-love and self-esteem is fronto-striated.
The more this region is activated, the greater the self-esteem, however, a common mistake about this dimension is that people with high self-esteem and self-esteem are almost always the smartest and most triumphant.
This is not true, or at least one thing is not related to the other, in fact, researchers agree on one aspect: activity in the frontal-striatal area is a reflection of emotional health: at a lower level of activation, people are more likely to suffer fears and insecurities, and an increased risk of developing depression.
From an emotional point of view, people who do not care for themselves and who do not value themselves, try to get others to do so, thus covering these needs to “affirm themselves”. They need recognition and affection in a very intense way. Far from self-feeding, with a good dose of self-esteem, they are captive to the desires of others, and this is the principle of slow self-destruction.
Sometimes we fall under the subtle spell of thinking that it is always better to listen to what comes from the outside than to listen to the needs of the interior, this is due to our educational standards or to different environments or people capable of undermining our own self-esteem.
If you can’t see how much it’s worth, you’re likely to be with those who can’t see it either.
Worst of all, this external conditioning forces us to accept the acceptance of others as a means of regaining our emotional stability. All this will make us wander around the world, so fragmented that we will have to dress even more with the values of others, with the rules and convictions of those around us, until we feel worn and empty.
Here’s how to avoid it
In the face of injured self-esteem, nothing better than becoming aware of this injury, of this fracture that has disconnected us from ourselves.
Far from comparing yourself to other people or letting malicious criticism affect you, be sure to maintain that loving bond with yourself, because as Jiddu Krishnamurti once said, everyone’s religion should simply be to love oneself.