Do you love it?Do you feel anything from your pelvis up?
We often talk about the pains, joys, sufferings and joys of love from a feminine point of view, perhaps because women (most) are more expressive, more emotional and passionate.
- In our female dome.
- We hear and talk a lot about how much we give and have not been valued and recognized.
- The pain of having been abandoned after all that we have done for the relationship.
- How we strive to be beautiful.
- Loving.
- Dedicated.
- Delicious We are the weakest sex.
- Are they selfish men and they just think about that one?!.
Their?! Maybe? Who knows?
It should be remembered that I do not support any of these ideas, but I cannot deny (as a woman) that the role of suffering in the relationship almost always leans towards the feminine side, which is by nature more sensitive. more than them, but we show much more (most of us).
If you do a Google search, will you find a multitude of blogs and articles about suffering?Modern man? (as if man showing suffering was only allowed in this century). You will find explosion texts of broken (male) and unbelievers of love hearts. Beautiful statements from passionate men and you know it?They love him too!They have feelings too! They’re human beings, after all, aren’t they?
The other day, I was on a project, listening to love stories, when he sat in front of me, curious about what he was doing sitting there behind that little table. When I explained, he stood up and said 😕 So come on, write about mine that’s there. I smiled and got up too, looked at him and said: ?Tell me!
He summarized the trajectory of a marriage that ended after 13 years of union, at his discretion, because he had given himself up and given himself too much and no longer felt behind, has become a mechanical relationship of childcare, home and obligations. He wanted to feel his heartbeat again. He became involved in relationships with a heart full of needs and hopes and was there before me, incredulous and empty.
Actually, I don’t trust women anymore, you know, I don’t have the confidence to give up because they seem to just want to take advantage of me and leave. Looks like I locked myself in love, you know? I don’t trust women anymore, now I want to live my life alone, in my corner.
I wondered how I was going to tell this story, so much like so many others, and so often heard by women How would I say the frustration and pain of male feelings, when man’s suffering was considered a characteristic of modern man?me all the time?
Conversation! He was sitting in front of a man who had wanted to speak for himself, certainly representing countless men who felt the same things, men who rest their heads on the pillow and bitter disappointments of life, work, unrequited love, men who change radios both do not suffer from that damn game card.
I still think women are more emotional, sensitive. We are. God did. We have menstruation, we have hormones, we have several personalities in 30 days and I even feel sorry for the men who live with us. We are expressive, sometimes too dramatic. But we are strong, heroines of feelings, because with all these oscillations, we continue to parade with blisters on our feet and a start of 15.
But men feel it too. Love. They pretend to be tough, but they feel everything we feel, only that they pretend very well (at least most of them), they are disappointed, they close, they become disbelievers of love, they wear this armor that they taught men to wear, just as they taught us how to wash, iron, cook, embroider, make Kamasutra and maintain an impeccable appearance. And help hold the house.
They created bad ideas about how we should behave, and made us women insensitive to male feelings, turned men into actors who play their difficult roles very well, and made everything too complex.
Who had this idea?
Isn’t it time we took off this armor and men aren’t afraid to feel and express their feelings, what about the women who receive it without suspecting the intentions of their peers?
Right there, in front of me, there was a man who was ready to be anyone here, without armor, wanted to feel, give up, stop being the tough man and was disappointed. Because women also caused disappointments, broke, cheated, couldn’t get involved, wanted the boy to be different and we ended up going, we stayed while it was good and convenient and left when we felt it was over. .
We also took everything that was possible out of a relationship, only to find out later that we were wrong, and then we left, numb to tears and asking to “stay, I can change. “
What I’m trying to say is that men, women, don’t make any difference when it comes to feeling, this is because, by nature, men are closed and give the idea that they feel less, while women are more expressive and seem. feel too much However, there is no difference. We’re sorry because we’re alive.
We may need to improve our female perception of male feelings, which would be much easier if men showed more of their feelings.
My text will not change the historical context that men are sexists, women are dramatic, men will be seen for a long time in this role as speculators and manipulators of feelings, while women will fall victim to male cunning. It does not change the fact that men are defensive hermits in their world, acting as brave warriors against seduction and female deception.
This has changed in me since that day, sitting down to take notes on this common story of hearing from women’s mouths, the perspective of the male world. They love him too. Not that I’ve ever doubted it, but I confess that I also immersed myself in this feminine universe whose feelings are our department.
Do they also love, suffer, create dreams and expectations, plan for the future, and face a broken and unhappy relationship?Maybe with a little more sobriety than we do, but no different from what we expect in life. But we insist on this almost ridiculous, definition of roles, so we play for life.
They pretend not to feel, so that we do not discover how they feel, and we dramatize the feeling, so that they may realize that we feel, as we continue in the dramaturgy of “I feel nothing”.
This momentarily skeptical man of love, sitting in front of me talking about his heart, was an exception to the still sexist rule of the world in which we live. Unfortunately, few men talk. Unfortunately, few women respect this.
Unfortunately, we foster this culture in which we live, where women suffer and are undervalued, and where men come to maintain respect and masculinity.
Shall I advocate a change of perspective? Because more men speak for themselves without feeling weak and more women are willing to embrace these displays of affection without seeing them as a weakness.
Do I really think the program should end?