In the end, almost not knowing how, comes the day when we calm down a little, a little more attentive to start remembering what we call self-love. However, those around us do not understand this necessary internal change. This is where “magic” happens: others begin to value the person you were before.
Anyone who says that people don’t change is wrong, humans don’t vary their behavior or personality style overnight in the blink of an eye, the process of change is something more intimate, slow and even fleshy, because more than change, we grow. Something like this can only be achieved by being fully aware of our limitations and our black holes.
- In our complex journey through life.
- Cooling is not a defeat.
- It is a simple defense mechanism.
- Since existence is not just about dealing with the complications of everyday life.
- It is essential that we are able to build our own survival processes to be the real protagonists of this adventure.
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Jeffrey Kottler is one of the best-known advocates of the psychology of change, with books like “Only with Yourself” teaching us that throughout his more than 30 years of experience in this field of personal growth, there is one clear aspect: people change out of necessity and to survive more efficiently.
But there’s one detail that’s always interesting. For example, when you go through a moment without seeing a person, when you meet them, you see a certain change in their attitude, you wonder, “What happened?”, as Dr. Kottler tells us. , people don’t make major changes and don’t need to go through specific, high-impact events to change.
Only the rumor of everyday life, the daily life of small disappointments, words said or not, absences, continuous renunciations and giving everything without receiving anything in return, are small particles of sand that gradually create true emotional deserts, bringing, in turn, a change with a clear need: to start giving priority to survive.
The cold heart is the mind tired of waiting. It is our self-esteem that puts the alarm voice and the concept of the self coming out the emergency door in search of a solution; being a little cooler is the temporary response to the dissonances of life; puts limits on the germination of self-esteem. Estimated.
But chances are that those closest to us will realize this change and wonder what happened and why we are no longer these useful and manipulable creatures before. It is also possible that, far from understanding this change, they may be disturbed not to find the padlock in our hearts where they used to open all our doors to satisfy their egos.
This transformation allows us to delve into several aspects that we will then discuss.
The person with a slightly colder heart, who is neither dead, nor abandoned, nor extinct, understands that things cannot always be as desired, we must accept these things as they are and act accordingly.
Sometimes everything that fades and dies in it brings us back to reality. A slightly colder, more cautious heart looks at things more warmly to decide what’s left and what’s going on in our lives, believe it or not, there’s nothing wrong with that. .
Because to change is to grow and gain dignity. A natural process that finally causes light to pass through our scars.