Love hasn’t always been so complicated. Before the idea of romantic love took root in Western culture, they had more stable relationships, but today human beings struggle under two paradoxical realities: on the one hand, most people want to find this wonderful person who marks a before and after in their love life; On the other hand, most disable this idea of “great love”, frustration or suffering.
That is, many seek the benefits of love, but do not want to pay the price, these thoughts settle into men and women, however, they translate it and live differently, while they do otherwise.
- Most men are unaware of their fear of love.
- Almost everyone chooses not to be interested in the subject.
- To go from one relationship to another without giving them time to say “Do you have such beautiful eyes?”.
- Or even to become cynical.
- In terms of affection.
- However.
- They are often experts at first to idealize and then devalue these men with who might have built a love story.
Most men’s great fear is to “commit. “Although the word may seem very clear, it actually has several meanings. Each of us understands or understands this word in a different way.
Some people think that getting involved is a lot of expectation in a woman, so they take good care of and measure every step they take in the relationship, others believe that commitment comes when they open their hearts and show what’s inside. commit when the relationship exceeds the limit of a fixed duration. Finally, everyone interprets the fear they feel as they see it.
From the point of view of Dr. Juan David Nasio, renowned Argentine psychoanalyst based in Paris, all these fears arise from a single source: the fear of disappointing or “betraying” their mothers. Basically, at the level of the unconscious, they are constantly committed to the idea that only their mother deserves this complete love and that they are unable to experience this feeling with other women.
Is that the root of that feeling so many people express when they say that?Those women you know. These men move from one failed relationship to another, if they carefully review what is happening, they will discover that they themselves are in charge of sabotaging this opportunity to build a true love story. With your carelessness, your lack of sensitivity, or your need to then complain that no woman meets the requirements they’re looking for.
Many women build their own fantastic castle, where they play princesses. From there, they organize implausible love stories, which they can only call one?Prince, this man who knows how to deal with his neuroses and insecurities. Some kind of “educated father. ” able to provide them with the feeling of security they lack and protect them from life.
Most people will say no. They see themselves as modern, empowered and independent women. However, they spend their lives forming and breaking relationships.
Every time they end a relationship they tell themselves that “men are not worth it,” they talk about how they feel, disappointed?Because this man wasn’t what he looked like. Deep down, they wanted a man to behave like a woman. They find it hard to understand that the opposite sex is this: opposite.
As they delve deeper into their research, they discover that the disappointment and devaluation of men comes precisely from the fact that they are disappointed with their fantasies. They weren’t treated like princesses or queens they were.
Finally, they may also be tired of your whims, they may not have been considered “legitimate” women either, or they have not protected them as spoiled girls, nor did they behave like the travel knights they should have been, made mistakes, they were flesh-and-blood men, not princes.
Loving is not easy, much less being loved. But this becomes an unattainable task when the couple is tied to their childish fantasies and does not want to give them up, which makes love an impossible feat.
They become unable to appreciate and value all these contradictions that make us human and which are precisely what the other must accept, without seeking to remedy them, when there is true love.