There are three things that should not be broken: trust, promise and heart, if you think about it few dimensions are so valuable in life, thanks to them we can move more easily and safely in our way when we feel integrated. In a project, to someone, do these pillars, when they collapse, leave us more vulnerable than ever?
What social psychologists and even sociologists often comment on is that today many people have relationships with others based on what we call a risk mitigation model, that is, there are those who avoid going too far in their personal and emotional relationships so as not to get hurt, not to experience disappointments, frustrations and other disappointments.
- “It is impossible to live without trusting anyone.
- It’s like being trapped in the worst cell: in yourself?Graham Greene.
This? Saving emotional energy, this emotional lockdown creates bonds of low human quality, recyclable relationships that come and go or remain in a state of frivolous superficiality, thus it is clear that the risk of injury at any given time is reduced by building the most harmless bonds with a taste of substitute happiness. However, is it really worth living in this icy antechamber where nothing authentic can germinate or happen?
One aspect that we cannot lose sight of is the fact that each of us is genetically programmed, trusts the others. This is something we need, and we need it with all our might because, in a way, our survival has always depended on each of these individuals who make up our closest social group.
No one wins if he constantly distrusts others, acquires by providing resources, energy and intentions, being emotionally courageous, mobilizing openness, positive attitude and being aware that there are three aspects that should not be violated or broken: trust, promises and hearts.
Repairing loss of confidence is one of the most complex, delicate and stimulating efforts that human beings can experience, when we are children they teach us that there are certain things that we should not break because they cost money, because they are years old. irreplaceable, or simply because what is damaged, broken or broken in half can no longer be reused.
They rarely tell us that there are other things that, although we cannot see or touch them, break more often, and there are invisible dimensions that fragment like bones in our body and, curiously, take much longer to heal. trust, promises, respect and affection in the hearts of the people we love.
Sometimes the child’s eye learns from a very young time to neglect these precious gifts because their own parents neglect them; because feeding the children, promises not fulfilled afterwards, leaves traces; because growing up without ever relying on the real trust of the parents themselves leaves a mark. permanent footprint. At the same time, when the people we love break our hearts in the most basic way, for example for ina lack of attention, it describes our behavior and relationship style in most cases.
The things you shouldn’t break are those of heart and sincere affection. Those that, even if they are not seen, are irreplaceable.
Today there are many aspects of our brain that we do not yet understand, one is the variability that exists when it comes to trauma, there are those who develop a state of permanent vulnerability, a type of chronic stress in which it can rarely be created. Strong and happy bonds with others. Others, on the other hand, apply an attitude to life that places us at this level of humanity, of emotional excellence, with which we must all learn.
There are those who, in the past, have been lost adrift in the company of their broken pieces. Today, still fragmented, he knows that only those who offer the bravest trust to others are trustworthy. It’s these people who never forget their promises, that keep them even in the winds and storms because they know how much betrayal hurts.
These resilient and enlightened personalities are also those who understand the beauty of a heart, but they also do not forget how fragile it is sometimes, how frightened it is when affections are not firm, when nourished by lies, doubts, manipulations and disguises. Betrayals.
These things that should not be broken are the same things that will allow you to have a more meaningful and dignified life, because the one who gives deserves to receive, because the one who speaks the language of trust understands the meaning of promises and knows how. listening to the sound of the hearts of others without harm, so it deserves the same rights, the same gifts, that contribute to the construction of a more respectful and above all happy reality.