Love comes without warning. First euphorically, create ideas and expectations, then when you become real you decide to stay or go.
The same goes for love, with its whims at first, confusing during its growth but protective, warm and safe when built from trust, communication, respect, authenticity and affection; in fact, if its pillars are not these, love can roam between addiction. , abuse or contempt, as can be seen in the short film that can be seen at the end of this article.
“We learn to love not when we find the perfect person, but when we can see an imperfect person perfectly.
-Sam Keen-
One day, all of a sudden, you realize you’re in love. Not knowing how or why, his thoughts began to revolve around a person who gradually became special, unique and different.
Not just your smile, your gestures or your appearance. Nor is it how it is expressed, nor what skills and values it possesses, everything is together. The funny thing is that just as it has that special charm for us, for the rest of the people that someone we admire is in “normality”. “.
But be careful! Passion also has its drawback: we make mistakes, when we fall in love it is like throwing a great coat covering the imperfections of the person who attracts us, making them totally invisible to our eyes, so the image we see of each other is an ideal that, over time, we will dismantle.
Then, when this magical mantle begins to disappear, we face a real challenge: discovering the reality of the other, at which point we can decide to continue sharing our journey with it or, on the contrary, stop doing so.
A relationship is nourished by the effort of its participants in the same way that the success of a couple of dancers is reflected in their training, so that their performance shines on stage, so if we let our romantic relationship drift, it will probably end. lost in an ocean of apathy, uncertainty and inertia.
Sharing feelings in a relationship requires betting on continued growth with commitment.
But it also doesn’t help that a single member of the couple is responsible, because love needs it to pay off, if only one part does its job, as in dance, harmony will not appear and will inevitably be noticed in the coordination of Something similar happens with our characters in the short film: carelessness and lack of anxiety on their part generate feelings of shock , rejection and frustration.
The relationship is an invisible canvas where the couple draws their steps that will define a sketch or framed box as an image.
Under the power of passion, we can fall into dependence. The character in the video shows how: surrender your heart and make the other person accept it, when we depend on ourselves, we stop being ourselves, leaving the role of protagonist to a new person: that imaginary that the other wants us to do. Be.
Thus, when one decides to end the relationship, it is at the mercy of suffering and pain caused by rupture. A void appears that can lead to self-contempt based on the belief that we are not worthy of love.
This void, if we do not accept it, can build stone walls that will make future encounters impossible. That is why it is so important to complete the grieving process right after the loss of a partner: to recover and renew with the learnings of this relationship.
There may also be someone who patiently destroys this wall stone by stone and teaches us that full love is based on respect for each other’s intimacy and sharing, as is the case with the character at the end of the video. a breakup, and it can even clear up your fears: it depends on whether you want to go ahead and get out.
If we finally decide to walk with the other person, it is important to keep alive the idea that love is not a passive feeling, but feeds on our attitudes, love is like a garden that needs to be watered day after day.
Authentic love does not feed on making the other in our image and likeness, but with the sincere acceptance and knowledge of the other. Love is the radiance that springs from two hearts that have voluntarily decided to love and understand each other.
Where each one has the key to open the locks of the other and where, precisely for that reason, complicity grows; increasing in such a way that an emotional atmosphere is created that serves as an insulator for the only spoken language: that of feelings and hearts.
Love in a healthy relationship functions as a means in which to support or gain momentum, a place where they grow together.
Every human relationship is a world in itself that arises from the encounter of other worlds, the course each will take will depend on its leaders and the kind of hope they feed in them, in that sense?The gift? It’s a video that serves as a metaphor for understanding some fundamental aspects of how love works. We leave you with the video: