Have you ever considered the idea of valuing yourself? Or is your pace of life so fast that you don’t even have time to do it? Maybe you have never stopped to think about how much you like them, or when you evaluate yourself, you focus only on the negative, as the protagonist of our video does.
The way we evaluate ourselves is a problem that determines everything we do, from our personal relationships to our performance at work, are, in a way, influenced by the image we have of ourselves.
- There are many conceptions and theories about self-esteem.
- The humanist psychologist Carl Rogers defined self-esteem as the fundamental core of personality.
- In turn defending the idea that many of the problems we have are but a logical consequence.
- Of the mistakes and qualifications we make ourselves.
- Considering that we do not deserve to be loved.
On the other hand, psychotherapist Nathaniel Branden stated that self-esteem is the possibility and experience of being able to lead meaningful lives, in which feelings of capacity and personal assessment are decisive.
A more current view of this term corresponds to psychiatrist Luis Rojas Marcos, who defines self-esteem as the feeling of appreciation or rejection resulting from the overall assessment of ourselves.
Different words for the same term, but with a single message in their essence: having good self-esteem will make us more generous in our relationships, both in those that we have with others and in those that we maintain with our interior.
Almost all psychological problems are largely associated with low self-esteem, there is nothing more dangerous than our own judgments, and if they are negative, they will build a kind of mental prison in which we will find ourselves trapped by our own thoughts.
Having low self-esteem will prevent you from recognizing yourself as a capable or non-disabled person, this will only show your eyes the flaws (as with André, the protagonist of our video), and chances are that your thoughts will all remind you. those criticisms you’ve accumulated.
Carrying out all this childcare will make your mental prison bars stronger and stronger, gradually eliminating the ability to value yourself. When you don’t value you positively, you find yoursed in a world of constant self-contempt, requiring the acceptance of others.
While our level of self-esteem varies by the different events that can happen to us and our personal growth, the most important thing is to start cultivating the ability to value and love us.
Acceptance is the fundamental resource for loving oneself. In fact, remember that accepting doesn’t mean accepting the image that others say you have, but what you think you are, that it’s different. To accept yourself is to discover yourself and begin to appreciate the authenticity of yourself as a person. virtues and their flaws, try to strengthen the former and mitigate the latter.
So when you meet yourself, a whole world of skills will unfold from within. You will no longer be that person incapable of everything, unworthy of being loved or of little value, and you will no longer depend on external judgments.
On the contrary, you will be a worthy, capable and valuable person, based on good self-esteem that will give you opportunities to show off your skills and face the challenges you face. When you start appreciating yourself, you will know that you have the right to be happy and you will start to respect yourself and defend your interests and needs.
Now I propose a challenge, as does the mysterious angel from Luc Besson’s film with protagonist André. Go in front of a mirror and look at yourself: what do you see?How do you see yourself? Go further, don’t you just describe the physical details?How are you qualifying yourself?Stay away from the negative sales you use and try to rate yourself.
It’s usually not easy to look at yourself to find out and be honest, that’s true, but beyond that, start telling yourself: I love you. You may find that it’s not that simple or that, on the contrary, you have no difficulty doing so. What stops you or allows you to say these words easily?
Finally, some questions to reflect on your vision of yourself
Remember now is the time to start loving and valued yourself?
Finally, we leave the video of the French film entitled Angel?