It is important to live in the present moment. Put your presence, mind and heart in the present, this is what we expect from the people we consider important in our day to day.
But are there times in our lives when we encounter voids, the breaking of something good that was usual, and the appearance of silences, twisted looks, and doubts?
- There is no more painful absence than that of those who.
- Despite being by our side.
- Embrace us with indifference.
- Pay no attention to us or treat us with irony.
- Few forms of loneliness can bring so much suffering.
Those who are absent do not want to be present and sometimes complex situations take shape and continue over time, imbued with lies or half-truths. Not being present at the moment pays no attention to what surrounds us.
Offering voids to the people who make up the gift is a way to hurt and deceive those who offer it, this is not positive for e-parties. However, there are those who do not understand, who do not realize that there is no satisfactory, healthy and emotionally safe bond.
There are people who just don’t know how to love. They don’t know how to be present because they only understand one link: with themselves. We invite you to think about it.
In fact, while this surprises us, there are many types of absence, there are those who, instead of living, simply go through life, without anything really interesting them, there are also those who, although they have established a good relationship, affectionate or friendly, from night to morning will show disinterest and apathy.
The absentee can only offer a fragile bond, a cold embrace that often precedes a farewell, preceding a farewell that will bring misunderstandings and disappointments.
There are many people that we leave behind because the relationship has just cooled down, because the eyes were getting tired, because there was a lack of complicity or because being absent was the only way to be in balance for one of the parties.
However, these processes are normal in our life cycle, the self of the present accumulates many fulfilled absences and cycles that have left us in the past, dear people with who we have learned a lot but who have left and from which we can or cannot. Lose.
It’s important to know what types of absences they are and what types of people are characterized, some cases can be familiar.
Many children perceive one of their parents as someone emotionally distant and even inaccessible, in these cases we can differentiate two types:
The presence in reality has nothing to do with physical space, this is something that needs to be clarified, because someone who is with us next to us does not mean at all that he is present, that he listens to us, let alone that he offers us. reciprocal feelings to our own.
It is essential to know that to offer happiness to the people you love, it is not enough to simply be with them, it is important to learn to be present not only for the well-being of others, but also for ours. emotional balance.
The way to do this is simple
Being present or absent always depends on what one feels: if there is love, there is presence with authenticity and filling the voids, otherwise it is best to walk away before leaving scars.