Time will not solve your problems, it will not erase the feelings that are rooted in you, nor will it make you forget what happened, it is a very harsh but real statement: time will only help you put things in place, making you protagonist of your path.
So when I read Miguel de Cervantes saying that time is a gentle way out of bitter difficulties, I can no longer think of time as a tool for change. With adversity, we travel adrift, but the passage of days gives us hopes of emotional harmony.
- Time is relative and uniform.
- Adapting to the psychology of those who think.
- So it is never what manages to erase what hurts.
- But what leaves us enough space to continue: sometimes it takes months.
- Sometimes years.
The Argentine genius Borges once stated that time shapes our life according to the feelings that spring from our interior at every moment, and shapes us as people: it is the composer who unites the work of his time and, within this work, you are the main protagonist.
The margins of time we allow ourselves to get into a bad time are as effective as close friends or anyone who wants to support us: they are supports you can be very grateful for, but who can’t live for you.
If you feel the need to get up again, you must take the reins of what is happening to you and make your decisions, if on the contrary you have already been there and the facts have resumed their course, you will have realized that the individual effort you have proposed, an individual effort probably supported by the hands of your loved ones , and the time you’ve been a partner of your actions has slipped to have positive consequences.
With time and courage, not all these feelings that hurt or hurt will be erased: it’s a kind of tattoo that you’ll have to live with, but you’ll also have to relocate: everything finds its place in your heart and in your memory. , in such a way that it stays in you in a disfigured way: like the pain you can feel when you touch that specific place (it no longer paralyzes, but brings the memory of a learning experience).
You understand with this that there was no doubt and that this place, which is now hurt, was your place and no, tomorrow will come and you will not forget it: the chills, good and bad, remember. say it will no longer hurt if you learn to forgive or, otherwise, forgive yourself: this will be a new life lesson and the real hero/heroine is you, not the time.
If there is one thing that saves time is to open your eyes, remove the blindfold and enhance the gift, in this present there is life beyond what generates sadness, more relationships to care for and value, more people and projects that demand a little more from us.
Plans don’t matter if we don’t move to achieve them, we won’t feel better if we don’t activate the key to inner strength: time can help, but if we let him do all the work, he will. Flee.
In the end, time will teach you to look from today and not from yesterday or tomorrow: the one who left because he wanted is gone; the one who left unknowingly is; who wouldn’t want us to be there. As long as we don’t keep that in mind, time will slip away without looking at us.