As we age, our circle of friends becomes more select. This is not to say that we are becoming antisocial people, or that by responsibilities we do not have so much time to dedicate ourselves to our friendships, simply over the years, we have learned to choose better the people we want to be with. .
When you are younger interpersonal relationships are a mystery, there are many emotions to face, many disappointments to overcome and several toxic people to leave, over the years we have managed to eliminate from our lives all those people who do not bring us anything. and that becomes a stone for us.
- “You have to find friends like good books.
- Happiness is not because they are numerous.
- Nor very interesting; but few.
- Good and well-known.
- ? – German Matthew-.
We change over time, change our priorities and value situations and people who once went unnoticed, over the years we understand that quality is better than quantity in relationships, now we are interested in the people we can count on, than bringing positive waves into our lives.
All this is understandable and normal. There comes a time when we are fully aware that our time is precious and that wasting it on people who are not worth it will make us benefit much less, our circle of friendships is reduced to only people we consider special to us.
This reality is not a mere reflection, but an investigation that has clarified this subject and discovered at what age we have begun to become aware of all this. The research was conducted by the University of Rochester in New York. She revealed that at the age of 20, we prioritized the number of friends over quality. In this age group, we are comfortable with this decision.
Time does not waste friends, but we learn to distinguish them
It’s not the same when we go through the 1920s and enter the house of the 30’s, here we care about having real friends, quality friends who take us away from the toxicity of relationships, but also from sadness and loneliness. that cause us many situations. Improving our emotional balance is vital right now.
Although many people may feel identified and this research is a clear example of what can happen in general, there are always exceptions, depending on our maturity level, perhaps at 20 we start to find our circle of friends or, on the contrary, we can be 30 years old and still prefer quantity to quality.
Over the years, we are aware that many people do not deserve to be labeled “friend”. Friendship is not what we were told, it goes further. Who was by your side in difficult times?Who can you call if it’s necessary? You can answer these questions now.
It may not be very difficult for you to find a name, two or even three, but for many there may not be an answer, if so, don’t start feeling guilty, this means you enjoy friendship and probably don’t have met that person who will still be a true friend. It’s hard to find, but not impossible.
At this stage it is worth emphasizing the hypocrisy of social networks, in which we have 200 friends, 400?But it is interesting to note that we do not know many, the desire to be sociable is beyond reality, but appearances, over the years. , become less important.
A true friend arrives in time. The others, when they have time
If you haven’t gone through the transition to start reducing your circle of friends, maybe you haven’t had to deal with the anxiety that affects everyone who sees how that number of friends they thought they had will be greatly reduced. until you can count them with both hands or even one, that’s when you’ll be able to become aware of the real reality and lie you lived in.
Are you one of those who prefer quality or quantity?As we have seen, there is a learning moment in which we have spent many friendships truly appreciating what the word “friendship” itself means. Everything is process, it is the natural course of our existence that allows us to value over the years all those people who, despite the circumstances, will always be by our side.