1. Avoid despair
No one is attracted to someone desperately looking for a boyfriend. Why? Because when you see that someone else needs someone else to feel good, it means their self-esteem isn’t going very well and is usually not attractive.
- You don’t have to be a psychology expert to detect a lack of self-esteem.
- Even if it’s not intentional.
- We unconsciously realize that the other person doesn’t value themselves and it’s a negative point.
- Which causes rejection.
This means that we are not attracted to it, because we all want a person who loves and accepts himself as he is.
I don’t know if you’ve ever found yourself in a situation where one person wanted to introduce you to another, parents who tell you they have a lovely child they could introduce you to, friends who say they know someone who can’t have a boyfriend and who is a beautiful person, etc. This is usually flatly rejected, because we think consciously and unconsciously: why do you want to join us with someone who can’t find a boyfriend by yourself?
No one wants what is easy to achieve, we want what many others want. We want to be the chosen ones because we really like it, not out of loneliness or despair.
Avoid at all costs the image of sadness, loneliness, desperation to find your partner. Try to value yourself, be well in solitude and value yourself, in this way you will attract more than if you detected despair, sadness or loneliness.
This is obvious when someone’s main goal is to find a boyfriend. There’s a certain lightness and despair that they don’t usually like. Avoid talking about your desire to find your half orange, your sadness without a partner, etc. ?
Remember, negative things don’t appeal to anyone. You have to show your positive and safe side, it is better that the intention is to meet people and then no one knows what can happen, but the other sees that you are not looking for company for your loneliness. Prove that if you find someone you really love, you’d like to have a serious relationship, but if chemistry doesn’t work, you’d rather be alone.
This will make them appreciate it, because they will see that you are not satisfied with anything, but that you are looking for someone special, everyone wants to brag about having achieved something difficult, we all like to achieve something that fits nothing. that is presented to us.
In order for you to be interesting to someone, you must first be the first person to value yourself. Stop and think about your qualities, explore them and believe in them. If you feel that you deserve pity, so do others.
Think about it: if you were someone else, what would you like about the virtues you have?Take their positives and fall in love with them every day, so others can do it too.
Many want to meet a wonderful person and ask others many things, but we don’t look at each other, if you want someone worthwhile, become the person you’re looking for, then you’ll be chosen.
How many times have you heard that phrase?” Love is not sought, it happens when you least expect it. “I agree that love is not something you can easily find, you can’t activate it whenever you want, but it’s also true. that if you’re not active, if you don’t do anything, it’ll be harder to find someone.
Love is not sought, but you need to meet new people, the more people you know, the more likely you are to fall in love with someone, to find your partner.
Your goal, as I said in point 2, should not be to find a boyfriend, but to meet many new people, and then to open the field of possibilities to meet someone special, with whom you want to start a romantic relationship.
Photo courtesy of Javier Bouzas