There are many episodes of our past that we intend to forget, but to end a pain we must remember first, not so much to keep it fresh in our minds, but to integrate in our present life the events that hurt us, with the enrichment that this brings.
All the processes we go through in our lives involve changes and involve internal and external battles, changes involve losses, and with them also come goodbyes, pains and resignions, it seems that it would be natural to avoid incorporating it into our history, because it requires effort and suffering, because it is the past duel that must be reviewed.
- Of course.
- Grief is part of our lives.
- It has an important meaning for our own personal development.
- Since grief helps us to change for the better and accept the inevitable.
- There is no point in avoiding them.
- Even because they always prepare us to incorporate new experiences of great value and meaning.
In forgiveness there is more than our tireless inner struggle full of grudges, guilts and regrets, when forgiveness finally arrives acceptance is already underway to end pain, it is common with frustrated loves, which we intend to forget before forgiving, and thus end up maintaining a pain that poisons us.
Forgiveness requires acceptance to obtain the necessary learnings and integrate into our being the personal development that each relationship brings with it, it is a process that brings us peace and tranquility in the end, and requires a calm conscience, the path of forgiveness is like the way of love, because it uses this feeling to finally manifest itself.
Of course, at some point you must have thought of this famous phrase: “time heals everything. “But this is a big mistake as time alone cures nothing; it is what we do with ourselves during this period that can help us and mature, learn and grow internally to resolve our conflicts and difficulties.
Saying goodbye is an inescapable constant in our lives, we have gone through many important goodbyes, both of people (breaks of romantic relationships, withdrawal of friendships, death of relatives, etc. ) and of circumstances (work, health and diagnosis of illness, unfulfilled expectations, steps fulfilled, children who reach their independence and leave home, etc. ).
Every moment we go through, we leave behind unrecoverable problems, let change move forward, and thus learn to say goodbye knowing that every meaningful interaction in life leaves its mark on who we are today.
When it comes to a duel, especially if we are talking about sentimental relationships, it is best at first not to have everything that reminds us of the person in sight, so that we can overcome it without too many difficulties. Once the duel is over, we can realize that this person no longer affects us or touches our emotions.
One of the keys to our well-being is how we fit into the present, the past can no longer be changed, we cannot control it or make changes, the only thing we can control is our attitude towards the past being in the present.
To do this, our personal work is not to forget our past, nor to the people who mattered so much to us, but to be able to integrate all these experiences into our present, so that it is an experience that brings us learning and growth.
Being able to fully understand what we were and what we live, both the most pleasant and unpleasant parts, allows us to know better what we want today. Our vision becomes more lucid and wise in integrating all the experiences into our lives for maturity.
“Walker, it’s your footprints, the road and nothing else; Walker, there is no way, the road is done by walking. As you walk, the path is done, and looking back, you see the path you’ll never walk again. Walker, is there no road, only trails at sea?-Antonio Machado-