Looking back won’t be an easy task if you haven’t been able to completely overcome the past and, in fact, you won’t know you’ve overcome it when you’re mature and you’ll find yourself laughing at something you’ve buried yourself in. This feeling of overcoming that you feel when you get out of a complicated situation and see it differently is called maturation.
When you are going through a difficult time, perhaps the darkness prevents you, in some way, from seeing the exit to walk towards it, perhaps you prefer to remain still, without opposing your fears, without facing all the imaginary beings that you feel. as a great threat.
- But what if you remember other situations where you felt that way.
- Even if the circumstances weren’t the same?You’ll never.
- Ever cross the same river? You will understand that difficulties that now seem giant tend to have equally large weaknesses.
- When you find them.
- You can look back and feel how you can smile proudly from your own experience.
- From your own fears.
Perhaps, reading this, he remembered the phrase that says “not mature over the years, but with the damage. “The thing is, it’s not without reason: suddenly those wounds, which are now scars, no longer bother and are the most tangible proof of how you grew up and what you learned.
“There is no other way to reach maturity than to learn to bear the blows of life.
-William Shakespeare-
The obstacles will have united you forever. They will accompany you wherever you want, you will not be able to escape them and they will be recorded in this book that you say is your life, they will do so without exception, but you may end up being past pages: those you have already read and can only reread if you wish.
In addition, not only do you have the advantage of deciding whether you want to read them again or not: most important of all, the power to remember them in the most appropriate way is in your hands, with the attitude you consider meritoria.
That’s why I say that laughing at what some point hurt is growing up, because growing up also means knowing you and being sure who you are. Reason enough to smile: you’ve freed yourself from a past that bound you and now you know how to undo the new knots that come up.
Some of the biggest falls that life gives us are the result of mistakes that come from our own decisions: there are situations that require decision-making among several options that are very important to us, placing us “between the cross”. and the sword. ” Either option takes us one way or another, and the chosen one may not be the right one.
Personal mistakes become small stones with a meaning, a sense that is good to understand so that they do not reappear, in the future, the stones make you stumble and fall again and again, until you are forced to rise to continue: this implies a great effort that will leave your mark.
“Maturity is not reflected in making good decisions, but in living with the decisions already made, even when they are not the most accurate. -Anonymous-
Growing up also involves considering mistakes as learning opportunities and as tools to live life to the fullest, it is true that failure hurts, sometimes much, but it is much worse that it hurts not to have tried to do a certain thing. failing and trying again is part of your inner discovery.
While it’s true that what made you cry may be the result of your attitude, it may not be the case either and the damage may be caused by something or someone from abroad. Sometimes, for example, you may have experienced a toxic relationship that took you a long time to get out and that emotionally destabilized you.
Or, on the contrary, you may be in one of those moments when it is difficult to cut the threads that unify you to other people who are dear to you and who have given you the best of you: for some reason, you must assimilate the goodbyes and stop crying for what it was or not.
Elvira Sastre says that a life without courage is a path of infinite return: maturation has a lot to do with courage in every step that is taken, especially the most difficult, so as never to run out of strength in the face of difficulties.
“If you call your experiences of difficulty and remember that each experience helps you mature, you will grow vigorously and happy, no matter how unfavorable the circumstances may seem.
-Henry Miller-