Even today, many people confuse possessing true love, but these people are completely wrong. Why do problems arise if we think so?
Today we will discover the great differences between having and possessing, and what it has to do with loving or not.
Love is not a cage, nor freedom alone, love is the freedom to return accompanied.
Although we initially believe that having and possessing have something in common, the truth is that when we talk about relationships there is a great chasm between these two that we have, having someone does not imply possession at all, and that is something that must be taken into account.
Having someone means that we have at our side a very special person, without being forced to do so, a person we love and desire, but who we know is free, gives us the grace of his company, loves us, shares his life with us, but does so freely.
There are people who, simply because they have other people who want to be with them, believe they have them, do not realize that people are not objects, who have no obligation to be by their side forever, are free. !
Owning, on the other hand, often implies insecurity because, as we have already said, people are not objects, people come and go, come and go in our lives, even if we have them in our lives, we cannot keep them because we do not have them. Possession is not love, possession is insecure, it is fear, it is a desire to grasp what cannot be retained.
How do we know if we confuse love with possession? The ultimate manifestation of this is jealousy. When a person is too jealous, that person wants to own their partner. You may have a misconception of what love is, you may not know that there is an unwarranted fear behind all this.
“If our love is just an act to possess, isn’t it love?”
? Thich Nhat Hanh-
However, if we delve into the subject, we will find situations much more difficult, such as psychological and physical abuse that affects many relationships, it is another form of possession, of marking territory, of power.
This is why confusing love and possession is not a ballad, but something that leads to unpleasant situations that destroy relationships and, above all, people, but why do people go to such extremes?Why is it so hard not to have more?
Maybe it’s because of the many love stories we see there, and they still promise happy endings. It can also be by the famous “Together Forever”, which already only by description adorns and fantasizes about true possession.
How many times has a relationship started and you knew the end could come sooner than expected?Is it true that the promises of eternal love and the vision of aging together flood our minds?Without realizing it, we are predisposed to suffer.
We don’t know how to have a partner without having it, having it just for us, worrying about whether they care about others, starting to suspect that they can leave us What’s our reaction?Stress, jealousy and a clear struggle to make it clear that this person is just ours.
We must open our minds, leave behind this old love-possession relationship, now we can talk about the love-possession relationship as a loving relationship, we have a person who shares his life with us, but we don’t have it because it’s free.
“He asked for a proof of love. Did she set you free?”
-Livia Hernandez-
To think that we can’t live without our partner is a lie that we constantly repeat, how many times have you thought about a relationship after it’s over?Perhaps we are continually dramatizing the reality of relationships, when in fact we should be more realistic.
We like to believe in happy endings and romantic movies that don’t even show a small part of what happens in reality How do you see your relationships?Do you have a hard time loving without owning? We need to start thinking about it and therefore change our perception. Love must be happiness and freedom, not suffering and possession.