Living is a constant task of sewing dreams and undoing knots, past and present, to move forward with more freedom. Having a meaningful life therefore suggests that we are wise storytellers, craftsmen of good relationships and trackers of the best spaces and environments in which to continue to grow with joy, sheltered from dark clouds and cold winds.
Taking on this set of ideas is definitely a good way to deal with it?Come and go?what happens in our always complex “here and now”. An illustrative phrase about it is one that says, “Life is not about the speed at which you run or the height you climb, but about how you rebuild yourself. “
- In other words.
- Having a satisfactory reality is a subtle process by which to know how to react in time to adversity.
- To understand that happiness is not a straight path.
- But an exercise in creativity.
- Reaction.
- Action and survival.
“You only live once, but if you live well, once is enough. “Mae West?
Living life is not limited to the existing, but sometimes forgets, we do not know that taking on ourselves as true protagonists of this scenario that opens up every day involves several things, the first is responsibility to ourselves. The second is to have the passion, the enthusiasm, the will to be, to be and to aspire to better things. The third is to be able to make sense of our lives.
This last term is important and we must remember it. In fact, in the current of positive psychology, it is a word that becomes much more relevant than the very concept of “happiness”. The reason? If happiness is often a temporary and momentary entity, which can make sense of our reality, it will offer us something lasting, a reason for being and of existence.
We all thought about it once. We have all said that nothing can be as satisfying as living life in our own way, on a frequency level where everything resonates best, in this particular tone where everything shines, as in a painting by Monet.
However, this is not always possible. Free will is nothing more than an illusion, and this for two reasons: our social context limits us, and also limits our genetic conditioning.
In addition, the interesting book “Designing Positive Psychology”, published by several representatives of positive psychology, tells us that even our own culture tells us how we should be happy, what vital goals we should aspire to and what things we should change in ourselves. to lograrlo. la happiness (or rather, a substitute for happiness). So while we sometimes have the idea that we are totally free to lead our lives, it’s a real illusion. Why not, we can’t always do that.
We have the advertising world convincing us that we have to buy the latest model of a cell phone brand to be satisfied, the male and female beauty model to which we all have to aspire to be seen attractive and successful, etc. With all this, we can see, without a doubt, that our psychosocial background almost decisively influences how we are going to live our lives.
On the other hand, another aspect that conveys our culture is the classic idea that happiness corresponds to emotional comfort, feelings such as sadness, anger, frustration, failure or disappointment must be camouflaged or avoided, just as physical pain is combated with a painkiller. No matter where you know where you come from, it’s best to limit yourself to silence, turn your face like you’re not there.
However, they are there. Negative emotions are part of humans and mammals for a reason, are these feelings treated in the limbic system to help us survive, to live better?
“Now that you know you don’t need to be perfect, it’s starting to be good. “John Steinbeck?
We know that we are not really free to live life exclusively in our own way, there are limits, there are obligations and codes to respect, however, in addition to these principles that mark our coexistence as social beings, we must open our eyes. wide to get rid of those knots that don’t work, that don’t help, that take away movement and personal freedom.
Many of these knots are created, as we know, by our culture, our families, our social relationships and even by the weight of a markedly patriarchal society with many aspects already outdated, so we have to undo those uncomfortable bandages that hinder our personal lives. Growth.
On the other hand, and to find the meaning that will be used to lead a more complete existence, it is also essential to understand one aspect, we know that today this approach is very important, which encourages us to be more present, to appreciate the here and the now, yet we must go further by asking ourselves the following questions: what do I want tomorrow ?, how do I want to see in the short term?
The answer will give meaning to our present, we will open paths, we will create expectations and motivation, only then will we be better storytellers and dream builders based on our vital goals.
Images courtesy of Tiziana Rinaldi.