Love, love, love, love, love, love, love, such a simple word for such a complex, overwhelming and exciting feeling.
We all come into this world without instruction manuals; We fell out of a chimney in this exotic garden called Terra and unknowingly traversed it, full of fears and doubts; but eager to learn, experiment, love and suffer.
- The art of love begins with many hopes and expectations.
- And yet we fail several times.
- As rational beings we are.
- We must learn from our experiences.
- Recognize our mistakes.
- Become better people to overcome failures.
- And better understand what it means and what it means.
- Brings this feeling called love to our lives.
Love is not a passive act. Loving is a continuous “give and receive,” but do not confuse the word “give” with renunciation and sacrifice.
The psychoanalyst Erich Fromm, in his book “The Art of Love”, introduced for the first time the basic elements that we must take into account when conceptualizing love. Here is a brief summary.
Love is an active concern for the whole life and growth of those we love, this concept refers not only to the love between mother and child, but also between a couple, it is essential to take care of your loved one and know their needs.
It’s not a duty or an obligation, but it’s a voluntary act on our part. It is an adequate response to the expressed or unanswered needs of our partner. “No one forces me to be responsible for you, I do it because I love you and I want your well-being. “This concept is delicate and can lead to something as dangerous as domination or possessiveness. Feeling responsible can cause us to fall into the trap of “I take responsibility for you, because you belong to me Nothing further from the truth. To be responsible is to respect and care for the other, to allow their personal growth and to value their individuality.
If we love one person, we must “respect the other as he is, not as we want him to be. “Human beings are not objects that we can possess or master, but people who contribute and enrich others through their way of being and their individuality It is an interaction where they both give and receive. We must reach our maturity and independence, without projecting our fears, insecurities and needs into others; unscanned and become “emotional vampires. “
Love is a constant challenge. It is not easy where everything is going well and in harmony, we need to move forward, grow, understand and work together. It is a whirlwind, where anything can happen: harmony and conflict, joy and sadness. Love is an art that enriches us as people; it is a learning experience Loving is a personal experience that everyone can have only for themselves and for themselves.
As psychoanalyst Erich Fromm said, “To love the other, do you have to love yourself first?”