The children do not come with instruction manual, but my father has overcome all the obstacles and difficulties to become the wisest and most important person of my life, all his hugs, his sound laughter and the kind look that always served me, who always worried me. for me in silence, they were etched in my heart.
It is curious to see how, over time, most studies on the figure of parents have not been evaluated as they really deserve; one way or another, they focused solely on their role as economic providers within the family dynamic or “present, but absent”. who did not participate in the education of children.
“A father is an expert who has never studied his specialty. -Alexander Shuterland Neill-
What we all know is that there are many types of parents, there are toxic mothers and exceptional mothers, there are inexperienced and heartless parents and real everyday heroes, they are people who preach by example, who inspire and give the world happy children. and responsible adults who have a role model in their parents.
Currently there is already a real attempt to recover the figure of the father, we have many books that demystify the concept that the baby supposedly only needs the maternal presence to grow and develop, there are other essential figures in the lives of children.
Our parents are these inescapable figures who deserve to be recognized, regardless of whether they are out or still with us, we know that their skin and heart are made of courage, sacrifice and emotion of pride for their children.
We can’t see raising a child as a gender-separated task. Sometimes even language itself becomes sectarian and exclusionary. “My partner helps me with all the tasks, is it Grandpa?A father doesn’t help, a father is also fundamental. part of any family dynamic. Because the education and care of a home is nobody’s, it’s the responsibility of the whole family.
A new fact to consider is that the number of single parents is a growing reality, in fact, in countries such as the United Kingdom the percentage reaches 23%, in 1993 the overall number of single parents was 9% and currently accounts for 14%. They are single-parent families in which men raise their children: they educate and care for their children with the same efficiency and joy as single mothers.
Believe it or not, the parents’ brain also undergoes several changes with the arrival of a child, not only do women experience major hormonal changes with those who start breastfeeding or create a strong bond with the newborn, men’s brain structures also have a ‘parental network’. In this way, they adopt the same patterns of emotional and cognitive involvement as women.
There are several studies that show us several aspects. Seeing the partner with the baby generates a number of very specific hormonal changes in the parent. Even having the baby in your arms and feeling it increases the release of oxytocin, prolactin, glucocorticoids and causes a decrease in testosterone.
In this way, an unwavering union is generated from an authentic attachment that has the same strength as a mother’s attachment to her child.
A father doesn’t have a superhero cape, he doesn’t do magic, and he won’t even make us touch the moon by swinging high. However, it makes us believe, and we certainly do; because one of your main concerns is to make us believe that nothing is impossible and that we can achieve whatever we want.
We know that not all parents are able to verbalize their affection, however, they stay by the bedside when you are sick, are your protectors of beautiful dreams when you have nightmares, the person who leaves?To pick you up when it rains. Don’t worry when you ask them something, no matter how old you are, because in your eyes, you are and you will always be someone he needs to protect and care for first and foremost.
A father’s love builds our personality. She teaches us values that we integrate and imitate, a way to face life based on courage that includes sacrifices, which she loves without asking for anything in return, the most important thing is that this healthy bond meets our emotional needs to create the courageous and mature person we want. are now.
We all carry many of our parents in us. It’s a treasure that survives, transcends us and moves us, so don’t hesitate, if you still have your father with you share your time with him, because one day you will wake up and there will be no more time to tell it. you have everything you want and feel.