Dealing with kindness is the best sign of respect for others. It is synonymous with kindness, kindness and love. After all, what was the point of not treating those we love with affection?The answer is simple: none.
But this damning statement is often not synonymous with reality; In fact, we easily forget the importance of treating them kindly, putting our emotional hands on others, and dedicating attitudes and words of affection to everyday life.
- Crooked answers.
- Disrespect.
- Impertinence.
- Screaming.
- Petitions? Certainly.
- Each of these reactions is very present in our relationships and in the way we interact.
A word, a question, a gesture, a look, a conflict?Any expression is an attempt at emotional connection with which we mean “I want to feel connected to you”. On this basis, we will receive a positive or negative response to our request.
If you think about it, the frequency with which we ignore or give unpleasant answers to these attempts to connect is appalling. Hence the importance of learning to treat with love, to touch others with respect.
Thus, attempts at emotional connection would be much more fruitful if we were able to recognize the emotional needs of others. Many fights are the result of misinterpretations and the sense of disconnection that can be avoided with conversation.
When conversation does not unfold out of respect for others, our relationships fade and deteriorate, disrespectful conversations, unsealed gestures of affection, fights, lack of empathy, etc. When we neglect the importance of connection, we tend to promote ours. isolation, dissatisfaction and instability.
The complete relationships that generate satisfaction do not occur overnight, but must be worked on gradually with various gestures that develop stability and affection in our patterns of interaction.
Let’s say that every day and with every little gesture we place bricks in our castle and that, of course, these exchanges are the pillars of the emotional information that nourishes our affection.
Positive responses lead to continuous and healthy interaction, they are the perfect touch of a ping-pong game in which both participants play with pleasure, but negative responses cancel out any connection attempt, that is, if one plays the ball and the other does not move their racket, the game runs out.
In short, we have several options to respond to connection attempts and, as they are, we will play ping-pong for more or less time, let’s see how to respond to someone else’s gesture:
Treating people you love with affection shouldn’t be an exception, it should be a rule. We often overlook these details and weaken our relationship, which deteriorates without a solution.
Therefore, let us focus and take care of the answers we give daily, do not let them feed on bad gestures and be attentive to attempts at emotional connection, always with respect and tolerance.
NOTE: If the reader wants to know more about this topic, we recommend reading to authors like John Gottman or Deborah Tannen.
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