To win in life you don’t always have to cross the finish line, get on the podium or win gold medals, no wonder sometimes they make us believe, so much to be happy you don’t need to compete, compare yourself to others or test ourselves in a thousand challenges. True well-being is achieved by working with oneself, by having us as the only reference, by being able to achieve what we really need.
Now, if there’s one thing they try to instill almost unconsciously in children, it’s the need to compete, the one who ends early can go to the playground, the one who gets the best grades is the first of the class, the most outgoing. , friendly and attractive has the greatest social success in school. One way or another, is it always necessary to be more than the other?to get rewards.
- On the one hand.
- There is our capacity for effort and our willingness to achieve certain goals.
- Work for what we want and give our best in all circumstances is appropriate and advisable.
- However.
- The problem arises when the person feels the need to compete with others.
- Strive to have more than the other and be the best at all.
They are common situations that sometimes subject us to indefinable wear and tear. We will learn more about this topic.
Many people see the day to day as a constant form of competition, you have to have the best job, the best car, the most spectacular Christmas tree, make the most original birthday party to make our son the most popular in school. as if the defining characteristic of life in society was precisely that, competition, taking advantage over the rest of the world.
However, there is something obvious about all this, anyone who understands their life through this filter will constantly experience a feeling: to be frustrated, never to feel satisfied In the end, there will always be someone who will be ahead of something, which will be better on their own merits. The need to compete, to be better than others, is the most useless suffering.
Winning in life must be gaining a type of happiness in which the person is the only reference, overcoming, setting goals and putting yourself to the test to achieve them is one of the most satisfactory tests in life, however we have been applying what we have for many decades. environmentalists define as the principle of competitive exclusion, that is, challenging each other so that only the most favored overlap each other.
But that’s changing. In this increasingly interconnected and globalized world, new social dynamics and, above all, urgent needs are emerging, and now more than ever it is a priority to structure a more cooperative and less competitive life to solve the many challenges ahead.
We spend a lot of time using a competitive approach in many of our social environments, we are doing it because it was (and is) the only way to get a job, get a job, get attention or have the respect of a certain group. Now, besides that sometimes it is necessary to compete, there are those who do it by nature, why?
Finally, it should not be forgotten that behind the shadow of the most pathological and harmful narcissism are highly competitive people with a clearly aggressive profile, it is these men and women who aspire to win at all costs, without hesitation in?Crush?adversary.
If you want to win in life, challenge yourself, don’t aspire to what the other has, don’t want to force others to reach a position of power and relevance, because in the long run there will always be something you will do more, continue to experience needs to meet and envy to be satisfied. Understanding life through continuous competition is synonymous with suffering.
On the other hand, if you are competing with yourself, things will change, if you define yourself as a reference and set goals and challenges to reach on your horizon, you will feel more motivated and the reward will be tastier. Build a happiness adapted to your needs, at your own pace and adapted to your characteristics.
It is also important to take into account one detail: it is time to create scenarios in which there is collaborative intelligence, of which we are all a part, combining ideas, actions, reciprocity and organization. It’s time to stop competing to build alliances and move forward together towards a future with solutions to today’s needs.