Today I decide to stop being bitter about life, because I no longer feel so much unnecessary suffering, because I realized that it is a great mistake to believe that my happiness depends on what others do or do not do.
According to a curious study conducted at the University of California and published in the scientific journal Psychology Today, nearly 40% of our ability to be happy depends simply on getting up and changing. Still, most of us are trapped in the same situations and, as a result, we are bitter.
- The key to finding a little more happiness on a day-to-day basis would be something as simple as controlling the internal dialogue we generate from the events around us.
You will be surprised, but there are many people who put their lives according to their needs, and by doing so the only thing they can do is generate many obligations: “Do I need my boyfriend to do this or tell me? This?” Do I have to get this job? Should I buy this phone ?, should I be happier?
This type of thinking, in addition to generating genuine existential bitterness, can also create insecurity. When I ask someone to do what I want, I’m more likely not to be satisfied because there’s a new need.
Instead of establishing our existence based on needs as goals to achieve satisfaction, it is better to start with small distances: for ourselves, to be well with who we are and what we have.
On the other hand, we should not confuse desires with needs and, most importantly, understand that many things around us are not going to change just because they do not fully satisfy us, if you do not support your colleague, the solution is to put distance between you and avoid anything negative that causes you.
Some things will not change; so don’t let yourself be affected more than the bare minimum. Practice the phrase “Today I decided not to make my life sour: I don’t need anything anymore. “
Paul Watzlawick was an Austrian psychologist and philosopher who, in addition to leaving us his ‘Theory of Human Communication’, also invited us to reflect through his book ‘It Can Always Get Worse, or the Art of Being Unhappy’. Thus, the author tells us about the mechanisms that people have to transform life or daily routine into something unbearable.
Watzlawick did something very original in his book: avoid traditional and recurring recipes ready to use?To be happy you have to do it?that appear in every self-help manual, on the contrary, to play with the paradoxical nature of our mind, suggested ideas such as:
The art of the bitter life is simply the ability to generate negative emotions, disenchantment, disappointment, discomfort or anger are states that make a reality both uncomfortable and unhappy.
If we are people who insist on not leaving our comfort zone and who, in addition, refuse to reformulate certain ideas and beliefs, it will be very difficult to change anything, so we become our main rivals, hindering our personal and emotional freedom. . Think.
I decided not to make my life more bitter, to change the way I see everything around me, now I decide to smile and not to be bitter about anything or anyone else.