The most perfect condition is, in a way, tolerating flaws, it is a way of living outside the ideal world of Disney tales, unconditional abandonment, idealizations and blind responsibilities.
It’s not a ruthless, dependent, aggressive, passive or victimized condition, it’s definitely a big challenge. It is difficult to build a love that omits idealization or at least gives the necessary weight to your expectations.
- When we say that defects should be tolerated.
- We are not talking about abuse.
- Aggression or any other kind of destructive behavior.
- This is intolerable in all cases and in all conditions and.
- Therefore.
- We must categorically condemn all these behaviors.
To fall in love is to love coincidences and to love is to fall in love with differences, to this stable love we call it true love, when it is worth going beyond passion and carrying the relationship with acceptance.
These flaws we can tolerate are defined as small misfits or different customs (e. g. not throwing away trash at the right time, leaving clothes discarded, prioritizing other things when it’s insignificant, leaving toothpaste open, etc. ) .
The combination of disagreements cannot define a relationship, otherwise we would be talking about a nightmare, so it is important, when choosing someone with whom to share our life, consider what is healthy and what is not.
If this assessment is not done correctly, there will probably be flaws that will be fatal to the stability of feelings and relationship.
Most conflicts between a couple are due to different customs or priorities, in this sense we must make an effort because these differences are compatible.
Because? Because there is no better view than the other on these issues that do not harm our inner self or our long-term expectations. Where do we leave our socks? It’s not a relevant or transcendent question.
In love, we must speak as equals. This means that we must be aware of the obligation to tolerate defects and behaviors that we disagree with and are not transcendent.
In one way or another, shared experiences build us as people involved in a feeling, that is the real commitment. To maintain it, we must constantly examine our needs and from the beginning of the relationship, avoiding blaming our discomfort on the defects we see in the couple.
Feelings, unlike passions, persist over time and do not break easily. Loving someone for their beauty is not love, it’s passion. To love someone for their intelligence is not love, it is admiration. However, love without knowing why it is love.
Time builds the love of two people who work, accept and manage to love their differences and peculiarities, this goes beyond infatuation, creating among them the magic of being accepted unconditionally.
Love balances our impulses from the inside out, it is the core that keeps the gear of our joint projects running, the most intense and invincible force is the one that unites us with understanding, acceptance.
This includes appreciation and recognition, respect for the person and their personal space, freedom, trust and communication. Around this, we can talk about common projects, the joy of being with our loved one and generosity.
Because? Because we live in a world where relationships are increasingly conflicting, because we do not accept to tolerate flaws and seek perfection without realizing that we are, by nature, imperfect.
So, if we take all this into account, we’ll realize that only the imperfect love involved in it?Perfect affection? It can save us from misfortune.
There’s no such thing as a perfect couple. In fact, be a perfect couple?It doesn’t mean not having problems, it’s knowing how to fix them. To love means, in a way, to be in love with our differences. Look on the good and bad side of our partner without anesthesia.
The most beautiful place in the world is one where we love and are loved, because there is tenderness, melodies, confidence, sincerity, courage, you and me, tomorrow and always and, I am happy if you are. , the heart listens to your favorite music.