It is true that there is a great myth in the story that in-laws are chat parlote, chat parlote, control and matriarchy (mainly the husband’s mother). It’s also true that some are scary. But the problem is not with mothers, but with children who do not know how to prevent their intrusion and this ends up generating many conflicts.
In reality, the big drawback is not when the in-laws throw the first stone, but when the children do not defend their wife. Be careful, because the opposite is also possible with the woman’s mother or even with the parents, even if it is true that the latter case occurs less frequently.
- However.
- As has been said in the past.
- A person will do what he is allowed to do.
- Which happens at any age.
- If.
- From the first episode.
- We kindly ask the other not to meddle in matters that do not concern him.
- It is very likely that it will become just a story.
When third parties are introduced into a relationship without consensus on the subject, the conflict will be on the agenda, this may be due to a little jealousy of the wife, or mother-in-law, an argument in favor of the love of man, but ultimately those who end up separating or fighting are husbands, of course statistics indicate that this happens in most cases , carrying this weight can lead to other situations and may even indicate the child’s lack of maturity so as not to deal with parents.
Whether it’s bringing your favorite dish, telling you how to raise your children (i. e. your grandchildren), wanting to change your daughter-in-law’s business and trying to live in the couple’s house (or spending many hours there), anything is possible for some. In-laws Is this when marriage must be strong and mature and cannot be influenced by what?
This is not to say that stepmothers are demons because they want to help their children and daughters-in-law, because as stated above, it all depends on what they are allowed to do or to what extent they can have an opinion or meddle. The real problem begins when the child is unable to recognize the intrusion, suspicion or rejection of the woman, in many cases blames the couple for certain comments, does not know how to defend their partner, does not face their mother etc.
We can give a very clear example of that. The husband’s mother arrives at the bride and groom’s residence and then opens the fridge and makes sure there’s everything her child likes there, indicates that some food isn’t healthy for him, or rather, she prepares her favorite dish for her own hands. The woman will immediately talk to her partner to discuss this situation and instead of talking to her mother, the man tells her that she is exaggerating, that her mother?You just want to help her, let her give her opinion on the food, which makes no sense to get angry.
So far, this could be a very normal situation for a couple, however, following this example, the same mother comes home and tells her son that her wife is disorganized, that she cannot cook, that she does not know. as it should be, etc. What attitude should the child (charming) adopt?Go out in defense of your partner, ask your mother not to meddle in your affairs, which is big enough to fend for yourself. What if he doesn’t? So that’s where something really goes wrong. The excuse of not wanting to hurt feelings does not count, it is vital to make use of independence.
If you want to avoid this problem for your spouse, ideally speak without your mother-in-law. It makes it clear that there is a precedent and that it could be of significant proportions. Analyze your husband’s relationship to find out what you need to be. conscious and how to react if interference increases. But under no circumstances is the mother-son relationship broken, let alone in front of it. Because then you can start a war.
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