Treat your children the way you would like to be treated. Erase their fears, name those emotions they don’t know how to express, give them their present, fulfill their dreams and make them feel like they are the most precious people in the world.
It is curious to see how many mothers and fathers today see the child with a little fear, read educational textbooks, seek to educate themselves in the latest theories and seek answers to all problems on the Internet or with friends (who are also parents or not), known as true parenting gurus. These parents forget to hear something much more precious than all this: their natural instinct.
- The father’s maternal instinct or natural ability to understand the needs of his own children is undoubtedly the best strategy for educating them.
- For children come into the world with innate kindness.
- So they deserve to be treated with respect to safeguard this nobility of the people.
- From the heart.
- Attending naturally and without fear of all the events that every day holds us.
There are mothers and fathers who are afraid of failing in their role as parents, they think that it can be a tragedy not to be able to offer them the best birthday party, not to find vacancies in the best school in town, or not to be able to do so. buy them the same designer clothes their friends wear to school. They aspire, in some way, to offer their children what they themselves did not have.
Of course, everyone is free to choose how to raise a child, but many times we forget what children are like and everything that happens in them. We persist in thinking about all that we must offer them without first knowing what they really need: ourselves.
Self-regulated creation draws directly on the theories of attachment formulated by the psychiatrist Wilhelm Reich, which have now been re-commented on because they exalt a number of key concepts through which it is possible to connect much better with childhood, with their time, with their needs.
The interest of this approach is that self-regulation is understood as synonymous with life, the need to first come into contact with our own personal complexity to understand that the child also has his own needs, his own conflicts, sometimes caused by a society that does not understand either childhood or the child.
A self-regulated education tells us that a child who was treated with respect as a child and who also saw how much his parents respected everyone around him will be a respectful adult.
But how can we achieve it?
Interaction with the environments in which the child is inserted through the five senses and relationships with his companions through joy also offers us an interesting way to promote his psychosocial development, however, whatever approach we choose to raise our children, we must not forget something. as simple as dealing with this safe and foolproof magic formula: love.