Today we will talk about true love, that love without wrapping, without artifice or romance, authentic love, able to last longer, providing sincere happiness, enriching daily life, where the couple can grow personally and collectively.
Is there true love? Yes, but we must not refer to the world of film or literature, it may be around you, or you can live it now, if so, I trust that you know the secret: the daily effort and dedication to build this relationship, in which both members can contribute their energy and form a team.
- Because sometimes love alone is not enough.
- No matter what passion.
- Attraction.
- Or feeling blinds and overwhelms us.
- A healthy relationship takes more than that to be authentic and sustainable.
Let us go further in the concept of true love: one who does not harm and enriches us.
Perhaps the world of film and literature is the main culprit for the references to “romantics” with whom many of us were educated. Love stories that can make us dream, but are rarely found in the real world.
? Romantic love is not true love, you have to be clear, and that is why you have to be careful not to fall into these dangerous myths, which sometimes fall within the ideal of romanticism:
? Love is eternal: this idea is not entirely false; we cannot deny that many couples are able to keep their love alive until the day of their death. Now, before you think that “love must be eternal,” ask yourself first if you’re happy today. Sometimes there are loves so fleeting, but so intense, that it’s worth living together.
? Jealousy is a test of love: in romantic love, jealousy is an expression of affection, without jealousy there is no true and sincere love, this idea is an absolute risk, a sign of domination and mistrust that builds most of the toxic relationships we have. see so often.
? Love is passion: another characteristic idea of romantic love is to think that a relationship without passion is not a real relationship, feelings must be taken to the extreme, where sexuality finds its maximum expression, where affection has no common ground.
This is a false myth, because, as we all know, a relationship can have different phases, although the intensity of the beginning is lost, there can be an intimacy and complicity that further unies with the couple.
True love doesn’t need artifices, and isn’t it based on magic, that things are going well because “we were predestined. “
However, this does not mean that there is no spark where chance has occurred, perhaps to a large extent, the fault of the encounter of two people, however, leaving aside magic, what really matters is everyday life, where small things build an authentic relationship. .
? Good communication, where listening is sincere, where you can speak democratically and make agreements. The forces are divided and there are no losers, the balance is always balanced and the dialogues are continuous. Obviously, good communication is also present in discussions; they’re normal and you have to be honest. Remember that it is important not to keep or hide anything, otherwise grudges may appear later.
? Support and recognition. Both members respect and value each other with authenticity, recognizing their strengths and weaknesses. There is no contempt, irony, humiliation; consideration is reciprocal and allows for personal growth, while maturing as a couple.
? Complicity and sincere affection. Over the years the initial passion may disappear, but that doesn’t mean the couple will no longer be happy. A healthy, happy and satisfied couple knows that true love feeds on daily complicity, where every day they look at each other. in the eyes, he keeps smiling and dreams of a common future.
Image:? Before sunset? (2004)