“Throughout my life I understood love as a kind of consensual slavery.
But it’s not like that: there’s only freedom when there’s love. He who is totally abandoned, who feels free, loves more.
- And those who love feel free.
- In love.
- Each of us is responsible for how we feel.
- And the other cannot be blamed for it.
Nobody loses anyone, because nobody owns anybody
And this is the true experience of freedom: to have the most important thing in the world without having it ?.
? Eleven minutes, Paulo Coelho?
Love is not control or demand, it is freedom and trust, yet emotional slavery is much more common than we would like to admit.
We know the theory very well, but we don’t put it into practice, that is, who dares to tell their partner that they don’t need it to live, but who has chosen it?Practically no one.
That’s because we’re not really aware of what it means to say to someone, “I can’t live without you. “By uttering these similar words or phrases, we are pressuring our partner.
It is certainly a very subtle pressure, because our intention is not to hold you accountable for our happiness or our lives, yet we unsuccessfully balance the balance of love with these expectations.
The truth is that love and dependence cannot coexist, because love becomes an emotional prison. Even if the relationship continues, love will be overshadowed by addiction.
However, it took us so long to realize that we had not built a harmonious relationship, that we ended up asking fate to change something so we could be happy.
We believe that love is a fairy tale, with princes and princesses, where everything ends well, though?Fortunately forever, it only exists in movies.
In that sense, we believe that the right thing to do is to settle for the security we feel when we have someone by our side, in fact, the only ones who can bring happiness and stability to our lives are ourselves.
“They made us believe that each of us is half an orange, and life will only make sense when we find the other half. Haven’t we been told that we were born whole, that no one deserves to take responsibility for completing what is lack?
? John Lennon?
Love is healthy when we don’t demand anything from anyone. To love is to share; it’s an exchange of love and attention.
Love will last as long as it is taken care of. That’s why it’s very important to think about what we expect from ourselves, our relationship and others.
Loving oneself is not a privilege reserved for a few, but a trophy available to all, we can even adore our partner, but always in a way that allows us to grow as a person, mature the relationship and take care of our own esteem.
To take this into account is to fully respect us and to have the guarantee of a healthy relationship, which will not bring suffering to the couple. In love not everything is allowed, including demands and limitations.