Love is not a matter of faith or religion, love is an emotional and emotional experience that usually happens when you least expect it, no one can love by force or just stop loving when it suits you when, for example, that love is not reciprocal. And maybe that’s where, in this little sense of uncontrollability, where the real problem arises.
Love often leads us to subtle fragility. Everything our peers do, talk or don’t talk affects us more intensely, each experience becomes more intense, and as a result, happiness and suffering are experienced more strongly.
- Hence.
- For example.
- The tendency of many people to act almost understandably after a sentimental failure: to avoid pain.
- It is better to flee.
- It is better to avoid what hurts.
- Purely classic conditioning.
- But is it appropriate?Is it better not to fall in love again so as not to suffer?.
How can we trust love again?
There is a very common idea that considers love to be synonymous with suffering. Therefore, we believe that this feeling is associated only with affection, and therefore with the irrational. Loving and feeling doesn’t go hand in hand with “thinking. “
But it must be clear that in some situations it is not enough to love, affection is not the only pillar of a couple to function, we must find, rationalize and master to the fullest this emotional madness, there has to be a balance between passion and rationality, otherwise we would end up getting lost.
Commitment, communication, affection, respect, empathy and personal evolution must undoubtedly be the everyday bricks with which a couple is built, but when something goes wrong, when these pillars collapse, pain and disappointment occur.
One process people tend to go through through throughout their lives is to learn that trust sometimes breaks down. When we are children, our natural tendency is to trust others. But as we grow, experience teaches us that people are not perfect, that they are not perfect. make mistakes that can hurt us, whether they like it or not.
We are all exposed to pain in one way or another, and we can also hurt other people. That should always be clear, experts always recommend one thing above all: the need to be realistic with love.
Don’t get carried away with the idea that the relationship you have now will always be perfect, keep in mind that it’s a long process of assembling parts, that you have to negotiate and sometimes give up or defend, a daily process in which the reciprocity and willingness of both to maintain that relationship still exists. Is it about exercising a pendular movement, starting from the?EU?for the ‘WE’.
If none of this exists, if you are aware that any of these points do not concern you, keep your vision realistic and prevent the pain from being greater than necessary.
If possible. Maybe you think it is better not to trust anyone anymore, that your past relationships have failed and that they have been bad enough to try again, this daily loneliness is better than uncertainty and fear of being hurt again.
If you think so, try to objectively assess the points we just raised Haven’t we lost anything by thinking like that for a few moments?
1- To regain trust in a person you must trust yourself Does this mean that you have no right to be happy, that perhaps you do not deserve to spend a happy time and share the daily experience with another person?The first step is to feel satisfied, satisfied and happy with yourself. “I love myself the way I am, I love that face I see every morning and I’m happy with the life I have now. “All these concepts are the ones that give strength to our roots.
Good self-esteem and self-confidence will always make us stronger in the face of pain, if I know what I want, I will be able to see these signs immediately in the other person who, I know, does not suit me, that, I know. , you can hurt me. ” I love myself and choose the person to love him too, to evolve with him, but always keeping his balance.
2? Listen to your needs. Only you know when you are now, only you know what your past is and how they hurt you, and as we know, every injury requires a healing process, so it is essential that you know how to listen to yourself and see what your needs are at all times.
It is essential to regain self-esteem, to rebuild everything around us, you may think that it is best to be alone, enjoying your friends and family, there is no hurry. Gradually, we will begin to look at our return with the wounds more closed, with the heart more open and the mind more lucid, trust will come slowly and in silent steps, then it will be time to release the weight of our fears and embrace the unknown.
To live you have to take a chance, always being aware that yes, disappointment may reappear, but is it worth it, even if it is brief?, perhaps repentance of not taking the risk makes us more guilty. Is it possible to love again? The course is. It’s up to you.