It may be the consequence of living in a society where people continually compare to each other, but I’ve often heard those who say to me, “You’re not worth enough,” “you’re not going to make it. “Before I started, I was able to visualize my failure.
This has happened in some important situations in my life, but to some extent also in the least important ones, which sometimes hurt us the most, because they are the most constant, so I ended up feeling that I wasn’t good enough to achieve my goals.
- “We have to have confidence in ourselves.
- That’s where the secret is.
- Even when I was in the orphanage and walking the streets looking for something to eat for a living.
- I still considered myself the best actor in the world.
- Has absolute self-confidence.
- He is doomed to failure.
- -Charlie Chaplin-.
But is that true? If you’ve ever felt the same way I have, I’ll say no. This appreciation of yourself is not real: you’re worth more than you think, you know more than you think, and you’re more important than you think.
Although I haven’t always known, I now know that the belief that I can do something is the only thing that can lead me to do it: the essential and essential starting point, so I learned that having confidence made me a person. who accepted risks and struggled with his fears.
In this sense, the desire to achieve what I want must overcome the fear of failure, for there is nothing that “has not been done for us”. Keeping negative thoughts about me has never led me anywhere. So I’ve learned that being in doubt, feeling sorry for myself, or feeling ashamed is just a way to get away from our goals.
The truth is, the mind can lie to us. It does and is good at it, our mind can make us consider losers, incapable, slow or incompetent when this is not true, the real thing is that if we give ourselves the opportunity, we will discover that we have more positive qualities. of what we think and that are the ones that make us special for the people around us.
Some of the hesitations and doubts about my worth that have affected my self-esteem have come after very complicated challenges, others, in turn, because some people left my life and I did not see the real reason, so I ended up pointing out as the culprit of this withdrawal, because it was an explanation that perfectly matched the sadness I felt.
In the end, I realized that the reason was not that I was not worth enough to stay in their lives, but that for other reasons, our time together was over. In this way, we learn that if we are not “WHO”; and if not now, when?
We must persevere, we must love ourselves and trust others. It’s about being the best friend you can have, not that enemy who doubts the possibilities. You’ve got enough of those who make you think you’re not capable. your speakers and shout that you have courage! Let’s give ourselves a chance.
Even if they tell us a thousand times that we’re worth a lot, sometimes we have a bad day and we have to remember it again, and who better than us to do that?Here are some things you can repeat when your confidence decays:
Always remember that strong and firm self-confidence will help you channel criticisms and failures in a healthy way, reducing the damage they can do to you, and this will leave life strokes less deep and you’ll have a solid pillar to support any project you want to start.