? It is forbidden not to smile at problems,
don’t fight for what you love
abandons everything out of fear
don’t make your dreams come true. ?
(Pablo Neruda)
We often think that fate, luck or bad luck are responsible for what happens to us, but the truth is that we must learn that we are responsible for our destiny, that we can change it, that we can live freely and choose between the different. opportunities offered by life.
What happens is that, on many occasions, we are afraid, we are dizzy to change our lives, but we have to get out of our comfort zone. We cling to the popular saying that “a bird in the hand is better than two. fliers. “
But why should we settle for this unique bird?
This is what psychologist Senninger was talking about in 2003, referring to the 3 learning areas we all have and explained below:
1. Comfort zone. This is an area where we find ourselves fearless, the rest is less than our knowledge of life and life, so everything is easy and comfortable, nothing scares us.
2. Learning area. Even if we do not know this area well, little by little, with the experience, we will be able to face it, they are small challenges that life poses to us and that we overcome.
3. Panic zone. No one likes the panic zone, is fear, mistrust, risk, uncertainty, danger coming?
Perhaps a new love enters our lives, which fills us with joy, and which also frightens us because we are in our comfort zone with a person with whom we have known all our lives, but with whom we are not really happy; or a new job that scares us for different reasons, but that in many cases would probably be better than the one we had before, to which we are used to and comfortable, because it does not involve new challenges.
But what’s wrong with the comfort zone if we get it right?It is that, without realizing it, this comfort zone is becoming a prison, and it may be that at some point in our life one wonders: “What if I had done what I wanted so much and what I had not done out of fear?”; “What if I had decided to choose this job or start a new relationship?”
What if it hurts a lot inside?
That’s why it’s good to get out of our comfort zone a little bit, because it can give us great joy.
There is more life behind the comfort zone. Sometimes we live in a golden cage, but if we start flying like birds coming out of the nest, we will realize that the world was full of good and different things for us.
We will feel more alive and better when we overcome these obstacles, which were simply limited by fear, because living in fear, a fear that is sometimes only in our heads, can condition our whole life and not make us as happy as we would like. .
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