Have you ever felt jealous? Probably yes. Jealousy arises from the fear of losing someone and in this process three people intervene: the jealous, the person we fear to lose and someone who wants to be with the person we love.
Jealousy destroys the couple because they arouse great distrust, these extreme jealousy shows that the person is very insecure.
- Today we will know the jealousy in depth so that we can turn them into self-esteem.
- Jealous people lack self-esteem.
Jealous people think their partner has no reason to be jealous, if you don’t give them reasons, how is that possible?
Jealous people have more reasons than we think, even if that doesn’t justify their behavior.
The problem is that jealous people have low self-esteem and think that anyone, real or imaginary, is better than them.
In addition, they are very insecure and feel that they must have full control over the other person, this can happen, in particular, if the couple has already been unfaithful and is afraid that it will happen again.
Often, the jealous person is jealous of something that doesn’t really exist; courteous action can be confused with a “flirtation. “The situation is the result of your exaggerated imagination, it is not real.
In fact, the jealous person behaves in this way because he suffers a lot just by thinking about the possibility of betrayal, when he tries to avoid this anguish an exaggerated fear appears and becomes very jealous.
But what can we do? Think about the origin of this insecurity and put aside that possessiveness, so we will be happier and more jealous.
If you want to stop being a jealous person, or if you want to help someone stop being jealous, the first thing you need to do is boost self-esteem, rebuilding self-esteem helps overcome jealousy.
Make sure of yourself and work on your fears. Every fear has a cause; ideally to understand the cause of this insecurity and try to overcome it.
Think, for example, about how uncomfortable you feel when you look at your partner, why does it offend you so much instead of being proud of her?
People can look and admire your partner. But it’s up to you, you’ve chosen it Why do you think someone can take it away from you?
Trust your partner and you’ll feel much safer, you’ll start dealing with the situation calmly and calmly Isn’t that more rewarding than the control you had before?
Nobody owns anybody. We’re all free and that doesn’t mean our partner is going to leave us.
Also, if you’ve ever been unfaithful to you, you may be afraid that your partner will act the same way as you.
You’ve already made mistakes and you think anyone can fail, how can you judge and condemn something you’ve done yourself?You have to be consistent.
Jealousy can also occur if the person we love has been unfaithful, in this case we lose confidence in it. If we can’t really forgive a betrayal, that relationship will end sooner or later.
“We lose many things for fear of losing”
-Paulo Coelho-
Are you a jealous person? If this is the case, the cause of these jealousy must be found and resolved, otherwise you may not be with the right person.
If jealousy haunts you, your relationship will never be healthy. Think about yourself and the safety you want to feel, trust, and increase your self-esteem.
Often, the person who makes us jealous exists only in our imagination.