We all know a bullying story in schools: this guy who got his head in the bathroom, the girl they criticize for the way he dressed or the typical parity who spends his time alone, locked in the bathroom or in the most hidden corner of the street. Cut.
Growing up, we want to be accepted by our peers, but that doesn’t always happen. Many people suffer psychological abuse and abuse. The irony of this situation is that perpetrators in harassment cases often also struggle to be accepted and, through intimidation, seek recognition from others.
- Bullying is common among adolescents aged 12 to 14.
- An extremely sensitive age.
- As they undergo many physical and psychological changes.
- It is girls who suffer the most from this problem.
As this phenomenon has caught the attention of parents, teachers and the media, especially in the most extreme cases, such as suicide and severe physical assaults, different types of bullying have been identified.
He’s the most common guy. It consists of isolating the victim: it is this child who does not let him play with the band, no one speaks to him and often makes him cry, this guy is the most difficult to fight, since he often goes unnoticed by teachers, who are the figures of authority of the school.
He’s scaring the kid. This may include threats or harassment when leaving school when there is no adult supervision nearby. This is the second most common type of harassment, aggravated by the fact that the victim, who is threatened, dares not comment on what happens to parents or teachers.
It consists of criticizing the victim and distorting his image, everything she says or does is ridiculed. Unconsciously, other children begin to ridicule the victim, believing that he deserves this kind of treatment. Thus, the situation extends to the entire school group, the victim acquires the label of “rejected” and eventually becomes increasingly isolated.
The goal is for the victim to act against their will, such as stealing evidence, the aggressors seek to gain advantages through their domination, however, the greatest advantage for them is the feeling of being able to control the other, reinforcing their image of leaders for others.
At one of these signs, both the victim and the aggressor need attention, and negotiation mechanisms need to be found to stop this harassment.
The positive is that there is currently a lot of information available for parents and teachers, so what was previously considered very simple is now classified as a type of aggression, a serious aggression that should not be ignored, as it can have serious consequences in the present and long term, creating adults lacking in empathy and low self-esteem.
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