Love can cause a metamorphosis in us. With love we can become distant people, we even know each other. This is because love is such a difficult feeling to explain that it can sometimes be called unconscious love.
Do we know that each one has his own definition of love based on what is lived, read, heard?, here we will talk about it as defined by the Royal Spanish Academy of Letters (RAE), this feeling towards another person, who naturally attracts us and who, seeking reciprocity in the desire for unity, completes us, makes us happy and gives us energy to live , communicate and create ?.
- Today we will focus on love that goes beyond consciousness.
- Let’s find out what it is.
- What the characteristics of this kind of love are.
- And how to identify it.
“While we consciously fear not to be loved, the real, though generally unconscious, fear is that of loving. “Erich Fromm-
When we talk about unconscious love, we mean that love that moves through our dreams, desires, fears, impulses and emotions, which goes hand in hand with our instincts and impulses, to it is difficult for our consciousness to access it, because its content is repressed, or at least partly.
Have you ever wondered: why do people who attract us deeply appear in our lives, but who are at the same time the essence of our frustrations? perhaps because there are unconscious aspects that lead to that attraction, which could then become unconscious love.
So sometimes we don’t know why we deeply love this person next to us, we just feel love very intensely, that’s the key to being with her, happy or not, besides, the love we describe is the one that leads us to make decisions beyond our consciousness. While this may seem impossible to understand, the truth is that we could, at least in part.
Sigmund Freud, father of psychoanalysis, suggested that the unconscious manifests itself through dreams, creativity, errors and symptoms, among other factors, so we were able to recognize that these aspects are attentive to its manifestations, in addition, thanks to psychoanalysis this content can also be accessed.
Psychoanalysis itself states that we make unconscious decisions, one of which can be love, and we do so based on the development of our personality, our experiences and the influence of culture.
Through the role of unconscious mechanisms we seek a love that fills our deficiencies, even those we do not know, that we ingest or encapsulate, so it is difficult to understand why we make decisions that can be toxic to our lives.
However, unconscious love should not be confused with toxic love: it may or may not depend on the mechanisms and experiences of the other, it can also be a blind love, in which one does not see the other as it really is and even idealizes it. hoping it will meet all our expectations.
Let’s see what usually characterizes unconscious love
Unconscious love goes beyond what we see in reality, moves through aspects of our inner world, confuses us because we do not know the mechanisms by which it moves.
While this may seem complicated, there are ways to highlight this unconscious love, but on the other hand, we will never have full control over it, let’s look at some ways to identify it:
Unconscious love is one that can go beyond logic, it is as difficult to understand as to describe in words, it is an intense feeling, but we do not know how it happened or why.
Is it a love that arises from our old wounds, from our desires, from our learnings, from our fears, from our inheritances, from our impulses?It’s a love that can lead us to choices we never think about. It’s a love that changes, because we see it in a strange way?when, in fact, it is intimately related to our inner world.