They say that love moves the world and that’s why we all dream of being able to enjoy an idyllic relationship, but what is love really?Is it a devastating storm or is it a beautiful blue day?
We receive models from all over what should be a relationship, of which we have our own idea of what love is, these ideas, unfortunately, are not always the healthiest, so mistaken beliefs can turn the couple into a dangerous drug. , without which life seems to lose its meaning.
- Children are like sponges that absorb everything around them.
- So if relationships at home were an amalgam of love and pain.
- Because there was abuse.
- Indifference.
- Or manipulation.
- The same dysfunctional patterns are likely to be repeated or different.
- But equally harmful.
- Patterns will be generated.
- This is because we tend to automatically look for what is familiar to us.
- Because the models with which we grew up leave a deep mark on us.
Unfortunately, there are many cases where love is confused with addiction and relationships become toxic, this happens when there is low self-esteem and you think it is necessary to seek love outside of you, at all costs, even at all costs. your own dignity.
In real life, relationships, like in the stories we see on TV or in theater, obey these basic guys, but what makes a romantic comedy fun?It is this special ingredient, called a sense of humor, that makes the relationship fast and fast. happy and makes the couple enjoy the horrors.
On the contrary, in a tragedy, the sense of humor shines through its absence and the relationship is taken very seriously, becoming heavy, dramatic and, worse, unhealthy.
There are several red alerts that identify unhealthy relationships, such as possessiveness, manipulation, disrespect, excessive jealousy, disqualification, addiction, insecurity, and abuse.
In reality, all these signs have in common the fear of not being loved or accepted as the person is, that is why a game is played, either of submission or domination, to try to control the other and, thus, to continue to get the desired “drug”: love and attention.
There’s a secret to playing a funny romantic comedy, more than a painful tragedy, is knowing that the source of love is in ourselves, not abroad. When we have that certainty, we understand that no matter who goes through our lives, everything will be fine because we are able to give ourselves the love, care, compassion and acceptance we need.
In return, if we put the source of esteem in the other person, the idea of losing it is devastating and, therefore, we do our best to receive this deceptive dose of affection, reaching any extreme, as a person suffering from a chemical dependence.
So it’s not worth twisting to get the drug?Of someone else’s love, since this, paradoxically, would only have the opposite effect, you just need to know that you deserve affection for being exactly who you are, and that you express and demonstrate it constantly.
A confident person exudes a truly irresistible charm. So start by loving yourself; Will this attract, as a gift, the ideal partner?
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