When we start a relationship it is normal to feel full of dreams and joy, as if a supernatural force pushed us and made us ascend to heaven, if all goes well and if we decide to formalize things, we come to formalization. of the relationship, which in many cases is done by marriage. What many may not know is that from now on the sentence: until death do us part?can be replaced by ‘until the pain separates us’.
What is sometimes not easy to explain is how it is possible to go from 0 to 100 in just a few months or years ?, what happens in the relationship so that we can not bear the mania and defects of the other ?, is coexistence?The end of passion?
- Disappointment is one of the reasons why passion can be replaced by pain.
- When a couple has just moved in.
- Everything is exciting and cheerful.
- However.
- You have to consider “the other side”: the side you haven’t had yet.
- The opportunity to see each other.
When it comes to sharing household chores and expenses, it’s common for small conflicts to arise, although it’s desirable to be able to resolve them amicly, what you see in the other person is likely to disappoint you.
Another reason is indifference. After prolonged and unfriendly coexistence, we can develop a feeling of apathy, disgust and rejection on the part of others. This is the moment when everything the other person does seems to go wrong. You’re arguing about nonsense and you don’t allow it?Until the day “whatever. ” You resign yourself and live unhappy.
The routine of the day to day, the lack of enthusiasm and spontaneity, the absence of surprises and new interests, fragile bases . . . the causes of boredom are many. Despite this, in addition to arguing that it takes two people, to get bored as a couple, there is also an origin in the two characters of the relationship.
If you feel disgusted or don’t want to go out, let the other person know, this can not only serve to evacuate, but also help your partner know how to help you, just as if what you do as a couple always becomes a routine, pain can appear.
For example, if you usually go to the movies on Fridays, there are two ways to watch this outing: as an activity to get out of the routine and have fun together, or as a predictable, insurgency-free obligation. option, right?
Mistrust, jealousy, insecurity, inferiority or dishonesty are some of the attitudes we usually adopt when we feel uncomfortable in a relationship, everything can lead to the end of the relationship. So, if you want your relationship to last a long time, try to improve communication between you.
Another very common mistake that leads to the couple, in addition to the communication that we will discuss later, is the lack of support, many times when you have one problem and decide to tell the other, you take a step back because you are convinced that they will not understand us. It’s worse when you count and don’t feel supported, protected or understood by others. To avoid this, empathize with your life partner.
On the other hand, lack of time is another great enemy of healthy relationships, it is important to spend a few minutes a day talking to your partner, giving them a caress or eye contact that really fills the other with energy. Long working hours are often risk factors.
As you can see, having a healthy and stable relationship is not an easy task and requires conscious effort on the part of both.
Today, the lack of communication in the relationship is the source of their failure, if something bothers you in the other ?, for example, if you never throw dirty laundry into the basket or if you do not take out the trash, it is best to talk. . Not with a tendency to argue, but to express one’s feelings and think about these attitudes. What’s more, success isn’t just about highlighting your partner’s negative things, the most important thing is love. Therefore, also communicate the positive parts: be sure to point out what you do and what you like.
Silence is not heard, but it fills everything
By making others realize what’s bothering you, you may be able to change the customs that damage the relationship. If not, don’t take it personally, just understand that no one is perfect. As your partner, you certainly have your extravagances.
On the contrary, if you choose to remain silent, you will not only omit information that can enrich the bonds between you, but it will also allow your inner discomfort to grow more and more, which in the end will explode for any other reason. . Remember: communicating is living.