Someone may have done us very badly, or we may have let ourselves down, the circumstances may not have really been as we expected them to be in the past. A mistake we don’t accept or behavior we didn’t expect can create chains in ourselves, making us victims of our own situation.
The past can weigh, it can even cause great suffering every time we remember it, look back or constantly remember what happened, without taking anything out of it, it slows us to repentance, guilt and even criticism, not allowing us to move forward.
“The past is a box full of ashes. Don’t live yesterday or tomorrow, but here and now. “Carl Sandburg
There are people whose lives are linked to a moment of success or an experience of previous suffering, they live as if that moment had never ended and spread all their present with him, remembering what happened at one time or another.
Living with what happened does not add up and does not calm our feelings, it simply transports us to a time when we are flooded and infected by their sensations, this happens with positive and negative memories, we cannot depend on it because we will be wrong. Staying in the past prevents us from growing and seeing our opportunities for change.
If we sit on the couch of “I tried once and I have not had good results”, “Falling in love has brought me more suffering than joys in the waiting room of our own life, as mere spectators of what happens around us With this attitude, we chose to be the secondary character of our film, at the mercy of others and circumstances.
The past, for better or worse, has served its time, it is not because we think about it often that it will end, and we will not solve it by fleeing it, but if we face the past, we can build new attitudes and new forms.
Any experience or situation is seen through the eyes of the passing person, giving it meaning in relation to experience, our past experiences mark our present and our future and we cannot prevent that from happening.
However, it all depends on whether our relationship with the past is mediated by chains that unwrame us or by trampolines that drive us forward through our learning.
If you use the past as a sofa, accommodating your problems, unsuccessful attempts, or open wounds to your relationships, you may be caught by all the bonds that keep you from moving forward. Work.
If, on the other hand, your past is used as a teacher with which you learn mistakes and virtues, serving as an engine, you may be able to continue to develop your full potential. The past can hurt us and catch us, we can stay, with him, run away or learn from his teachings, so, in a way, we are the ones who ultimately choose.
The springboard to our dreams is built in the past with the attitude of wanting to learn from what we have lived. Instead of complaining, feeling guilty or resentful of your last relationship, failed attempts, or disappointment in your friend’s behavior, think about what you can get out of it.
This, which seems so easy to read, leads to awareness and a desire to grow, as well as a commitment not to float on the surface of experiences.
How can learning to manage your experiences in your daily life help you?What is your connection to the construction of the trampoline that will allow you to achieve everything you want?Very simple: our personal growth is totally linked to the relationship that the past has with our daily life.
Let’s think about it: if I learn to deal with the people around me, what’s at stake in my work or with the management of my own emotions through the experiences of the past, it will allow me to more clearly focus all my energies on getting what I want. we want to build this propulsion trampoline.
Otherwise, we could simply stay in what we already know or are already living, fueling a danger. The comfort of the sofa, known, its comfort zone, is extremely attractive and quiet, even if it has signs of suffering. Is the risk of immersing ourselves in the unknown scary?
The past can serve as a sofa to cry on or as a springboard to keep growing towards your dreams, the choice is in your thinking.