No one will ever know how many times you managed to stay awake even if you knew you were collapsing, only you know where the marks on your wounds are, the ones you reconstruct very slowly, with a very fine thread and the needle of disappointments. Why is courage never an absence of suffering or pain, but the strength to continue in spite of fear?
Neurologists and biologists often remind us that the brain is evolutionarily primed to survive all sorts of adversity, but whenever bitterness and suffering knocks on the door, we ask ourselves, “Why me? When this happens, try Replace this question with a better one: “What for?”
- They say it’s brave to smile while you’re in ruins.
- But the courage is above all to be able to pick up every piece of those broken dreams and rebuild them again.
- To be stronger.
- More dignified.
- More beautiful.
Few vital moments will require as many internal resources as those in which we suddenly feel that our whole being has collapsed from within and that all that remains are sad rubble. Depression, trauma or loss are times of great difficulty. to the test.
We invite you to think about it
In Japan, is there an ancient technique called? Kintsugi broken ceramic objects. This is done with a powerful adhesive, on which gold dust is then applied. Kintsukuroi is a delicate and exceptional art where you do not want the broken or fragmented piece to return to its original form.
On the contrary, for Japanese culture, combining these broken coins with gold or silver gives it a vitality and a unique history, in addition, a remarkable fact to keep in mind is that these previously so fragile ceramic pieces, today, in addition to being beautiful, are incredibly resistant, sterilizing their wounds with gold makes them unbreakable.
As Ernest Hemingway said, “life breaks us all at some point, but only a few are capable of strengthening their broken parts. ” That’s why it’s worth incorporating this simple but wonderful metaphor: when something precious is broken, broken, or lost, one way to overcome the problem is to never hide your own weakness, your own fragility.
Because these bruised bonds can be repaired through resilience, this ability to overcome any difficulty to seal every wound, every hole, every dream broken with gold, and then rise like even stronger creatures.
According to psychiatrist Rafaela Santos in her book “Rise and Fight,” although neuroscience says we can all be resilient, this skill doesn’t seem so simple to implement. In fact, according to his own data cited in the book, only 30% of the population manages, for example, to overcome trauma.
Recover ours? It’s not easy, but it’s not impossible either. The human brain has millions and millions of neurons that in turn create billions of neurological connections. It’s a wonderful thing.
If we accept that we are all, in a way, architects of our own brains, we will also accept that we are fully capable of increasing our personal courage, strength and optimism to foster change. Therefore, the healing that reflects the art of Kintsukuroi will be carried out, through which we will be much stronger people thanks to the golden threads of resilience.
First, we must understand that the brain, in addition to being an organism governed by emotions, is also a very thin and complex organ that communicates through electrical impulses, when there is trauma or depression, works with different intensity. Why is it so hard? And all of a sudden, the world seems to be taking a march that we can’t keep.
Because we won’t be the same as before. Believe it or not, if we’ve done this whole process right, we’ll be incredibly stronger.