As Bernabé Tierno speaks in his book “Apprentice of Wise Men”, no one can doubt the need for love, as well as the need for food, air, light, water and sun. Love is a spontaneous and natural feeling, so remember: value those who seek you and love those who don’t let you go.
It is as incoherent to demand someone else’s love as to forbid someone to love us, for all love arises from spontaneity and our own inner freedom. We cannot control how we feel or how we feel about others.
- “I propose that you do not look for me.
- That you find me.
- That you do not look at me.
- That you do not speak to me.
- That you do not feel me.
- That you do not love me.
- That you give yourself up.
- That you are not at all.
- ?Alejandro Esparza?.
When we love we do it with all our being, our intelligence, our own body, our senses and, of course, our own heart, it is an irresistible thing, which envelops beauty and sometimes pain, but always teaches us to know each one. Other.
Sometimes we have the idea that love suffers, that to love we have to suffer, but it is a mistaken belief that prevents us from having a healthy and balanced relationship. Love and share, enjoy your partner. Love but also keep your space, stay yourself.
With friends and in romantic relationships, we accept situations in which we have to take an interest in each other, in which we simply say “I love you”, in which it seems that we only want things with the other person.
It’s very complicated to accept that if someone doesn’t call you it’s because they don’t want to talk to you, they’re looking for excuses not to stay because they don’t want to see you and if they don’t want to, don’t you say?It’s because you don’t feel it.
Our ego does not accept to be ignored and looks for excuses like? Must you be busy?,? Didn’t you hear the phone? Don’t say you love me out of fear? But it is important to be realistic, see the situation as it is: if someone doesn’t like it, whether they value it or not, you can’t do it.
“Love doesn’t need to be understood, it just needs to be demonstrated. “Paulo Coelho?
On the other hand, if someone shows interest, cares, calls, writes, we must value this interest, this sincere show of affection and respect, a spontaneous manifestation of affection is something that comes from the heart, which makes us think about what it is. really important.
A person who really wants to be by your side calls to know how you are, is by your side in difficult times, looks you in the eye and listens carefully to what you have to say, respects you and values you for who you are. , and it proves everything. In short, that person loves you.
If someone wants to be by your side, they are ready; and day by day you can count on each other, be it a romantic relationship or a friendship, if you want to spend time with someone you combine moments of meeting and sharing without looking at the clock, letting the hours go by without realizing it.
In the case of a romantic relationship, as Walter Riso argues, it is important that when one loves it is known to differentiate “to be one”, which cancels the individual to integrate into a whole, to “be lovingly united”. implies having a bond in which each retains its particularities and differences.
A basic exchange is required for a romantic relationship or friendship to work. Walter Riso makes an analogy with the thoughts of Aristotle and the S. Tomus of Aquino in his “Practical Guide” so as not to die of love?And he says that only love is what combines both distributive justice (sharing demands and benefits proportionally among couples) and commutative justice (avoiding exhaustion and fraud in all its forms).
For Riso, a relationship is based on reciprocity when: emotional and material exchange is balanced and equitable, privileges are evenly distributed, access to rights and duties is equal between the two people, neither of them seeks to benefit or exploit the other and neither thinks so. deserves more than the other.
“Life doesn’t make sense, you make sense of what you do, what you fall in love with, your dreams. Do you build the universe to your liking?-Walter laughs