The competitive society in which we live causes the need to be popular in the eyes of the people around us, to survive and adapt, to achieve what we want and to get out of “normality”.
This need to be popular can occur in any situation and in any environment, it is very common today that people appear on social networks with the intention of being popular.
- The clearest example of this is on Facebook.
- Where you try to get as many likes as possible.
- And many people dedicate a good time of their life to real virtual adventures.
- Showing their entire intimate life to achieve the greatest amount of likes.
Although the term seduction is generally used as sexual behavior to attract those we love, we use seduction as a resource to be popular in any area of our lives.
Seduction is something that everyone will develop over time, since we are babies we try to seduce to get what we want.
Seduction is an innate ability that helps us survive; the baby with his smile and tenderness is willing to seduce, so that without too much effort, with a slight gesture, he can attract the attention of his caregivers and get what he needs.
The same is true in everyday situations such as a job interview, in the relationship with parents, family, friends, partner, etc. On these occasions our repertoire of seduction appears; we use specific behaviors, such as using words that others want to hear, smile, and show the best of ourselves.
It’s about the desire to be popular and achieve what we set out to do, this doesn’t even need to be aware, it happens automatically at the opportunity for an interaction in which we can get a personal benefit.
Seduction could be considered as the set of expressions and manifestations of a person, his physical, behavioral, particular aspects, his way of being, all this is a product of his history and his life trajectory and that produces as a whole or in certain aspects. , the appeal of certain people ?.
(Fina Sanz)
When wanting to be popular becomes a necessity, to do everything possible to please everyone to the fullest, we get lose, leaving behind our essence and our honesty.
Thus, we completely forget what we really want, since we adapt to all kinds of circumstances related to others, in addition, we will eventually discover that it is impossible to please everyone and that frustration will be a constant in our lives.
Trying to be popular with everyone is to stop being yourself and acquire the form that best suits the other person. With this we do not show who we are and we lose all our essence and our special charm.
This charm is what people love, and that’s why they will accept us as we are, if we create false expectations, at some point we will be unmasked and relationships can end because of lying.
? I don’t know the key to success, but I know the key to failure is trying to please everyone (Woody Allen)
Our particular charm, which lies in our true essence, is what enriches us and surrounds us with honest and reliable people, so that we can establish truly stable and satisfying bonds, without barriers that prevent us from showing ourselves as we are.
Finding our essence means accepting our mistakes and faults, as well as recognizing and valuing our virtues and potentialities.
We will be more attractive when we love each other, when we allow ourselves to be ourselves and when we value the person we are, we will continue with the security of not having to be popular to feel good, since the most important thing is to love yourself?
“Man, in his essence, must not be a slave, neither of himself nor of others, but lover. Your only purpose must be to love?.
(Rabindranath Tagore)