You had a terrible childhood. Unlike other children, he was forced to grow up in a very unstable family environment, his parents kept arguing, shared his problems with him, only used?Good night kisses? They were a duty, but never because the same thing happened with hugs; affection was not “natural” or usual. All this has generated a great need for affection.
“Necessity is an indestructible obstacle, everything that falls upon it is broken?. – Gustave Flaubert-
- This is one of the situations that we take as an example and it shows us how important education is and above all love in a child’s life.
- Everything that happens in childhood will influence their future life.
- In this case we face one of the problems that most affect our current society: the need to be with someone to feel complete.
- But what happens when it relieves and drowns us at the same time?.
You did not choose, it is a situation in which you were involved and now you are suffering the consequences, constantly looking for what was denied you, as a result, you attach yourself to people and constantly avoid being alone, you are very afraid. .
You may never have noticed, but project your needs into others. For example, imagine that you’re with someone you love and suddenly you’re cold. Your first reaction is to cover or pack the other person instead of covering for you. certain of love or any other need: I need to be loved, and instead of trying to love me, I love the other person.
The big problem arises when that urgent need fails, you give yourself to others, but you don’t get what you need in return, because people don’t meet your needs, you get disappointed and you suffer, you engage with uncomfortable people who have nothing to do with you, maybe because you submit to them and let your happiness depend on them alone.
“Depending on the person you love is a way to sink into life, an act of psychological self-mutilation where self-love, self-esteem and its essence are offered irrationally. Walter Riso?
When he does this, he allows the other to harm him, not protect himself and becomes a vulnerable person. You unconsciously self-destruct, because you don’t see that the solution is in you. First of all, you need to know how to do it, to be self-sufficient. If they don’t like each other, no one will do it for you; if they are not respected, no one will respect them.
When trying to find happiness you are extremely unhappy, insecurity, fears, disappointments, mistrust, toxic relationships, everything you carry in this bag that you carry on your shoulders causes a lot of suffering, even if you suffer, you stick, you know that is all you have. Or maybe that’s what you think you have?
Don’t calm down, don’t side with someone because you need a few crumbs of love or pleasant moments Don’t you realize that you deserve so much more than that and that this situation weakens you?
You’ve probably noticed what’s going on, but it’s very difficult to get out of this situation. Despite this, you have no choice; everything becomes increasingly difficult and complicated, you can find yourself in a maze built by yourself, so it’s so hard to find your way out.
Some people have difficulty dealing with this situation and admit they are?Emotionally dependent? Looking for what wasn’t given to them. It is not an easy path, on the contrary, your need will try to take you several times to the starting point, which will make everything more difficult, but you are much more than this need, than this anxiety.
If your partner is everything to you, what will you do with the rest of the world around you, doesn’t love reduce life to the slightest expression?Walter Riso?
Force yourself to spend time with yourself. Stay away from all those people you’ve sticked to. It will be difficult, anxiety will appear, but if you resist, you will emerge victorious. Wait, you’re living the “weed crisis”: you should know that addiction is like an addiction.
If you find it very difficult, if you fall back into this addiction, fear not and ask for help, there are many people who are in the same situation as you and who have managed to move forward. life, stop suffering, stop giving yourself up to others, stop being unhappy, don’t let your need keep playing with you.