Loneliness has two sides. This may be a deadly enemy that hits you like a stone, but you can also be your best friend: the one who supports you in what you really want and who is by your side at all times.
Loneliness makes you think deeper about what you want. We all need these moments of loneliness. We need our space to be with ourselves. Think.
- But the comfort zone prevents some people from living these moments.
- Because they feel vulnerable and therefore always need other people by their side.
- Just have someone to share your experiences with.
- Just for that fear of loneliness.
Have you stopped going to the movies because you have no one to comment on the film with?In fact, that’s the excuse you find so you don’t go alone.
You have no one to share experiences with, feelings, feelings, doubts, small moments, etc. You don’t have anyone to take your hand and tell you that everything will be fine, that comforts you in moments of weakness and sadness, that supports you when you make a decision. The one who listens to you when you talk about your next steps and who looks you in the eye with the depth that love possesses.
When you’ve had something like this and lost it, you miss it, when you’ve never experienced it before. Because you miss the sensations that take place in your body and the emotions you feel just thinking about what you might have had.
Listen to your heartbeat, feel butterflies in your stomach because you will meet this person, you have to relive those emotions that remind you that you are not alone, and this need can make you replace your true feelings and cover them up and beautify them to feel the emotion of love.
You can even see yourself, for example, buying an expensive dress for your next date. Be extraordinarily sexy. Because that’s what you’d do with your real and original feelings, because that’s what you’re missing and you want to feel it again to feel alive, realize you’re still here. That everything can happen again, that everything will happen again.
But sooner or later your mind will return to a state of lucidity. Because even without knowing it, you’re going to put obstacles in your way: “Do I have to . . . ?,” isn’t it?”the excuses you make to silence your conscience and leave responsibility for the fact that the relationship didn’t work for someone else.
So having emotional substitutes is not an option. The feelings you have towards this person are invented and invented to make them look real and, at the first sign of change, the paper tower you built will collapse and everything will collapse.
It is not possible to have the total and absolute certainty that a relationship will work, but to have the total and absolute certainty that you put everything in you to make it work is possible, and you need to know if you are really responsible for your life, if you act coherently when you enter into a relationship out of necessity.
The need for someone else’s business is addictive. An emotional addiction that undermines and destroys you as a person. There may be a time in your life when you’re willing to pay the price for sharing your life with someone and not feeling that loneliness. This award is part of your need.
Emotional dependence can be excluded if both parties are fully aware of their relationship. You could say it was a relationship from the beginning. A relationship where 1 1 and 2, actually. Two conscientious, sincere people who look in the same direction and with the same goal. In fact, couldn’t we say it’s love? Mature love, born over time.
In such a relationship there are no phases of passion, although it has an aspect of enthusiasm for the novelty that your life seems to have, it is a phase in which, apparently, you behave as you would in a real relationship, but know what the other person is really like.
Such a relationship, without butterflies in your stomach, certainly what you will find in the future, may not produce the same emotions as those of two lovers, in such a relationship, love has nothing to do with it. It requires maturity on both sides, awareness of the need they have on each other. It’s a bit like an affinity contract.
If you want a relationship like that, go ahead. But don’t try to disguise anything else, enjoy it as it is.