Have you ever felt lost and about to sink?Sometimes the situations of life exhaust us a lot. We believe we won’t be able to deal with that, as negativity begins to show its toughest face. Everything we do seems wrong. All that happens to us is horrible, all we want is to find this lighthouse that always guides us (as many believe).
In this situation, if we are content with complaints and victimization, it is unlikely that the solution to our problems will be a miracle. Life’s difficulties do not mean that the solution to our problems is unattainable. However, all the negativity we have. The embrace becomes a thick fog that prevents us from seeing clearly.
- How can we see this lighthouse that always guides us? Some psychologists practice a beautiful exercise that helps not only to open the eyes.
- But also to keep hope in the heart.
- Even when those feelings do not seem to exist.
- Let’s get to know this technique better.
We must close our eyes, make a brief relaxation to release the tension that floods our whole body, thus reaching a state of peace, once relaxed we must visualize ourselves on a boat adrift with waves that threaten to sink it. and deafening lightning. We keep fighting, the water keeps coming into the boat and it wets us, we’re lost, alone and we don’t know what to do.
We can’t communicate with anyone. All we can do is hold on to the mast of the ship so we don’t get expelled at some point, it’s too hard. Our hands hurt. It’s cold, we’re tired of enduring this situation and we’re thinking of dropping the mast, but suddenly a blurry light appears.
When situations overwhelm us, we begin to drown in our emotions and this seems to be the end, however, if we do not give up and resist, we will finally have a flash of this lighthouse that always guides us.
Instead of bowing our heads and staying immersed in our defeatist thoughts, we’re curious to know this light, so let’s go. At least thanks to her we went somewhere, as we got closer, that light becomes clearer and we see something else. This light is on, how cute! We have hope again, it’s a lighthouse, there’s dirt. We already have a destination to get to.
Once this exercise is over, it is important to do a job with our emotions How did we feel when we were on this drifting boat?Probably fear, loneliness, abandonment and frustration have invaded us. Besides, we may have thought we were going, to die, but something has changed.
By the time we saw a light, our emotions changed radically, as curiosity overwhelmed us we stopped thinking about what was going on around us, a new interest arose that put in the background the negative situation we lived. calmness, tranquility, joy, relief? We forgot how bad we were and started to feel happy knowing we could get better.
This is often the case when, for example, we lose a job and find nothing for a long time, until the day we receive a call for a job interview, there is always a lighthouse that guides us, but we have to know if the person who receives the call refuses to see the lighthouse, he will think that he will not be selected for the vacancy , because she’s 40 years old, because she hasn’t worked for a long time or for any other reason that makes her fall. in their negativity.
How can we avoid this, when something negative happens, our lives fall apart and we don’t know how to move on?The key is to have more than one lighthouse. In this way, if someone collapses, it is possible to continue living without feeling miserable.
We can understand the beacons that exist in our lives as well as the different elements that make up it, for example, do we have a beacon for romantic relationships, another for family relationships, for work, for personal development?The idea is to grow, and maintain as many headlights as possible, so that if one of them goes out you don’t miss out at all. Let’s look at an example.
When one of our headlights goes out, we have to focus on another, now, if we neglect the other headlights, we will find ourselves on this drifting boat, in this situation we may be lost for a long time. Therefore, we cannot focus on a single lighthouse, there are others that also deserve our attention because one day we may need it.
Imagine that we are suffering an emotional dependence, so our partner is our life, what happens in this situation?We only have one lighthouse that guides us, this relationship collapses and the lighthouse collapses. We feel lost, stagnant and no longer know how to enjoy life. All our expectations were directed at a lighthouse, forgetting others. Where’s the beacon of friendship, what happened to professional goallight?
Without paying attention to other lighthouses, we run the risk of not knowing how to get on with our lives, so the exercise we mentioned at first can help us discover that there is not a single lighthouse that always guides us, there are many of them. What’s going on is that we neglect them and forget where they are, but this has a solution.
When we realize that it is not only a beacon that governs our lives, but that there are many others, we discover that even if one collapses, there are others who will continue to illuminate our path. We simply need to change the focus of our path, attention and sharpen our vision towards those blurry lights, into those forgotten headlights, so we can achieve everything we had neglected.