Changes are part of life. Go to a new city, decide to pursue an international career, change your profession, marital status, work, home, life.
There are both desired and unforeseen changes. Be that as it may, new situations lead us to seek different forms of adaptation and give us the opportunity to broaden our experiences and mature.
- Sometimes the will for change exists.
- It is legitimate.
- But the individual is paralyzed by the changes he wants to make.
This is very common throughout the therapeutic process, as the subject becomes better known, becomes more independent and wants to reformulate certain areas of life for the better.
However, leaving a known state to reach a new one has difficult aspects.
Alongside the desire for change, feelings of fear and insecurity also arise. Is it worth it? I wonder if I can do it. These questions are natural and it is important to be careful to avoid possible boycotts and thus achieve the desired changes.
The desire for change is important because it serves as a motivator and encouragement to take the necessary actions, for this to happen it is essential to have good planning. Thinking, thinking, creating strategies and deadlines is critical to achieving what we want.
Some aspects of this process deserve special attention, here are some of them:
? Every change results in a kind of loss. We have to put that in perspective, to live in a new city, for example, we have to lose the comfort of the family environment, the losses are natural and positive to some extent, they are part of the movement of life and are necessary for new situations that really happen.
? As much as there are planning and action strategies, no matter how much you win, there is a fundamental element in making the transition from the old situation to the new one: courage!This ability to face challenges is fundamental to lead the way and get to where Courage is necessary with the faith that change is the best way forward is what sustains the journey When we leave the security situation and build a new one, doubts tend to arise intensely: Did I do the right thing?I will?? Indeed, the new situation is taking shape, it is not yet possible to reap fruit, it is necessary to invest time, energy and wait with courage and faith.
? Change must satisfy the desire to bring the subject to a reality more in line with what gives meaning to his life and, therefore, more satisfaction and joy, but that does not mean that there will be no difficulties, there will always be problems, what changes is the emotional state of the person When a new situation is chosen and the change is made , the sense of achievement brings satisfaction and the person tends to be more tolerant to adversity and more able to overcome their own challenges.
I once read a phrase that caught my eye and fits well with that moment: “Is it important not to lose sight of the things you love, because there’s a little bit of your essence?
The further we move away from what we love in purely practical terms, the more sense you lose your life, sometimes we don’t realize this distance, and when we realize it, we’re far from what brings us joy. A transformation is planted and it is important to look at it courageously and assess whether it is time to start a transition, with all the challenges and satisfactions that this change will bring.