One of the evils that undermine relationships turns out to be customary, when we get too used to the person and begin to trivialize what is most true about him. With this in mind, we stop paying attention to what he says or shows, as if nothing else could shake his feelings toward us. It is as if, once affection, love and commitment are established, all this will last forever. No, it’s not that simple.
We cannot think that simply conquering someone is a guarantee that from there we will be together, like everything that exists, what is not taken care of, watered, fed and relived ends up cooling, withering, drying, dying at last. with people, with feelings, with objects, that’s the way it is with love. Nothing is eternal, except what is true, what is left in us, what they do to us, smiles, taken by the hand, all of us?Good morning, and good night?
- And we always try to make it work.
- Because we want it to work.
- We want to love and be loved forever.
- With everything.
- In spite of everything.
- But above all we want.
- And the days start to last and we keep warning.
- To warn.
- To call.
- To ask for attention.
- To be someone new in each other’s lives.
- Who remains without us.
And the day comes when we are tired, tired, tired once and for all
And the most interesting thing is that, in general, the other seems to stop only when we no longer have the strength to try, when we completely empty all traces of affection from within us, when we have already decided, we have already solved it, when our dignity no longer allows us to stay there. Days, months, years of vigilance, suffering, conversations, discussions, all in vain. So when the person sees us with the packed suitcases, only then does he realize that he will not live without us. I’m sorry, that’s all.
No one can bear to play the role of anything for a long time, because there is no force capable of being stronger than the pain of emptiness, the return that never comes, the reciprocity that is never felt, expressed, speeched, explicit. we are simply tired, and when that happens, nothing can convince us to stay, because by then it will be too late.