There’s always a time in our life when we start practicing it. Are we talking about the art of surrounding ourselves with healthy things: people, situations, things?Some will call it selfishness; However, I call it personal dignity, because if we do not feel self-love, what other kind of love can we desire?
Today, one of the most interesting aspects in the field of psychology is undoubtedly self-love or self-esteem. Every day?Bloom ?, more approaches, more techniques and renowned gurus who want to give us the perfect formula, but there is one aspect that we must clarify: self-love is not outside of us, it is built, it is delicately weeded and watered every day. day as the most powerful seed of our being.
- Many experts in the emotional world claim that the secret of the problem of self-esteem is in our education.
- They do not teach us to love ourselves.
- To put limits.
- To trust in our abilities.
- All this means that.
- Little by little.
- We will start to create self-esteem based exclusively on our interactions with others.
The image of ourselves is introduced into what others think and say. One becomes, almost without knowing how, fragile fireflies that seek a focus and dream of becoming “special”. When in reality what we really need is to learn to be ourselves, to accept our greatness, our flaws and our identities. We propose a reflection on the subject.
This topic is certainly fascinating. If we do a small analysis of most self-help or personal growth books, we will notice that many of them associate self-love with success. With high self-esteem, one imagines that someone can succeed professionally. With a definite and foolproof self. -In opinion, our emotional relationships are more satisfying.
However, this type of relationship is not always fulfilled, self-love is not a guarantee of success, it is a personal value that gives us respect for ourselves and the reaffirmation of our being, thanks to it we have a better capacity for connection, survival and being part of our daily dynamics. However, high self-esteem does not guarantee that we will succeed 100% in all areas of our lives.
In recent years, there has been talk of an interesting new concept: self-pity. According to an article published by the journal “Personality and Social Psychology”, we should see this strategy as a way to achieve authentic personal realization. reaching a deeper level of self-esteem.
Self-pity means, above all, treating our mistakes and limitations with respect and compassion, embracing ourselves as people who deserve a new opportunity to move forward, even if we have sometimes failed.
Still, this dimension suggests that we stop judging, defensive and comparing ourselves to others, we must keep an open mind and a warm and respectful heart, cultivating optimism and thus humility, only in this way can we realistically validate. our qualities, our greatness and our potential.
They may consider you selfish when they treat you as a priority, it is also quite possible to accuse you of cowardice when one realizes that this project no longer deserves your sweat, because when bitterness burns, when feathers hurt and illusions enter the In the form of broken dreams, you have to make a deposit of self-esteem and just move forward firmly , making words that hurt deaf.
Whether we believe it or not, self-love is a concept that many confuse, self-esteem is not pride, especially because those who respect themselves do not seek to feel superior to anyone, the proud is the one who has not healed inside, who acts on the defensive , causing harm, hurting. These two dimensions are the opposite of the same coin.
Let’s see below what axes define self-love and how we should strengthen it.
Referring to an excerpt from Shakespeare quoted above, “We know what we are, but not what we can become,” we will realize that this idea does not come true today. People spend their lives dreaming of what they want to be, what they would like to achieve, but in fact we forget something: practice self-care.
Enjoy every nuance of your life, every form, every movement, it is your own creation that defines it and must inspire it every day, you have to be clear that in our lives we cannot aspire to total personal satisfaction, but you deserve and must strive. to achieve at least 80%.
Remember: the less we accept, the more we will need the acceptance of others, and no one, absolutely no one, deserves this kind of slavery.