The mythical Audrey Hepburn said the best way to be happy is to “have a bad memory. “There is some truth in this, because in various areas of psychology it is understood that if you think about the future, you will have anxiety. , and if you think about the past, you will have depression. But what about good memories?
We have all lived the paradox of remembering happy moments and feeling a deep sadness invading us, born of the feeling that what happened is far from happening again, in those moments, when we share them, our voice is usually embarked with a residue of nostalgia, as if it were the echo of a time that has already passed and to which we would return, at least for a moment , without thinking too much.
- So getting our mental time machine back up and running.
- Even if it’s for a place where something has happened that we appreciate.
- It can alter our mood.
- Even the punishment they inflicted on us after making a good joke now seems.
- In light of our minds.
- Something pleasurable and cheerful.
- So good memories make bad people sleep.
- And they also leave scars.
Sometimes we try to remember the past by convincing ourselves that little has changed, we remain the same, accumulating wrinkles and debts that we can still assume.
Sometimes we remember it as the only way to feel good, to have fun or to talk a little with someone who has already left us, saying goodbye or not, with or without explanation. The thing is, in good things we always find a complaint for its purpose, especially when it seems or is final.
“The bad thing is to look at yesterday with today’s eyes, to want things to be the same again when you’re no longer the same, as if it were possible to recycle the sighs or give the same kiss a second time. the mute do not shout, the deaf do not hear the music, with the words that are written late, you can not write now, love that was, that never returns. ?- Marwan-
It is not possible to clone the same experience, many of the experiences we had were so beautiful because they had an end, perhaps it is true that we must assume that this time it was the most wonderful, that we are right to reserve a place in our soul.
This is the first step to be part of a very special group, a profession with a great future, creating wonderful moments.
Desires are good memories that are carried away in the future. We wish we could build in our lives this special feeling that once, in the past, has invaded our mind, body and mind. Memory has built details of memory that we don’t. “I don’t know how to integrate right now.
The truth is that it can be much harder to remember a happy moment than a sad moment when you are sick, the sad memory gives you the reason why there were always reasons in your life to be unhappy, the good memory makes you think: “I will waste the best years of my life so as not to feel what I remember today as my best moment in this world. “
The scar of a bad memory hurts, it can make you feel angry or angry, the scar of a good memory bleeds because it evokes, with sadness and melancholy, better times.
There are memories we fell in love with. Passages of our lives full of invented details that follow the general feeling of that moment, making it stronger in our memory, it is like a love that evolves and remains externally in the first phase of idealization.
The best thing that can be done to break this aura is to confront it with reality, not with the reality of this moment, of course you will not be able to return to it, but with people who have shared this moment with you. and who can give you a more realistic view of what happened and how you felt.
When you treat memory like a whole and stop betraying yourself thinking it’s like a romantic movie, you’ll realize that nothing that happens to us is absolutely good or bad, it only contains nuances. Keep these limitations in mind, as well as all, that’s positive.
Having tried something once allows us to repeat it with different people and in different ways, because when we taste something really good and sweet, we are ready to know how to enjoy everything again, remove the error of calculation of your look to the past and open your eyes to take advantage of the new path that appears before you.
If we look with realistic eyes, happy memories will not cease to be happy, but you will feel that all good things have happened, so happy memories will cease to be scars and will be removed from what you have experienced, as if it had been left while walking on wet sand. You like the feel of these footprints, so they allow you to walk somewhere else in a nice way.